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How Our Body and Mind Reflects the Confidence We Have

This post couldn’t come at a more perfect time. With all of the thoughts going through my mind over the recent couple of months, it’s time to reflect once again. And this time it’s on confidence.

I am happy to say that I am finally happy with how my blog is. I was having all kinds of thoughts about how I wanted it to look different. But as it stands, I’m going to stick with it as it now. The much more important part is the content. I thought I was losing my love for writing but it turns out I was being side-tracked. Focusing on something which wasn’t as important – making everything look perfect.

Perfection doesn’t lead to confidence

There’s never a day where I think I look perfect, never mind the appearance of my blog. There are some days where I’ll feel good about myself but I’ll always find a flaw. People will compliment and I’ll still find that flaw. Over the past couple of special occasions I’ve felt quite fed up. Feeling like my blog wasn’t going anywhere anymore was part of this. Though, it hasn’t been the biggest factor. Now that I’ve seen giving it all up would be stupid it’s time to look at myself.

It’s funny really. People hear that I blog. They don’t know what it is. And sometimes I have to tell them to explore my blog in order to see what it’s all about. That’s because I’m happy to say that I don’t have a niche. It covers bits of everything – many different aspects of lifestyle experiences. And includes the odd sponsored post with brands here and there.

It’s time to change my outlook

Within these past couple of weeks I’ve noticed that one thing has changed my outlook on things. And that all begins with comparison. The worst thing you can ever do to yourself, comparing yourself to others.

I don’t always have the clearest skin; my belly is often bloated and feels horrible even when others don’t see it; I don’t like to show my ‘prettiest’ look every day. That’s okay. I actually cried last week. I know, I’m silly. But it can put you down once one thing gets to you and you let others follow.

Just because one dress doesn’t zip up doesn’t mean another won’t. Yes – I had a meltdown over clothes not fitting, looking like I’d put on weight (because I probably have put on a few pounds). Well, I’ve not done too bad in over the last couple of years or so considering how much I love food!

Things won’t always go to plan, or meet expectations. But you can try a different way and exceed those expectations.

I might put off exercise here and there. But I’ve been looking at myself in the mirror so many times and not liking what I see. I know that if you want something you should work for it. But sometimes, you feel so unmotivated that sense of I can do this disappears.

An eye opener in confidence

I’ve opened my eyes and know that I’m not always going to like something but it doesn’t mean that I shouldn’t love myself. It hasn’t helped when you’ve seen someone look at the part of you that you dislike. But eventually you will be able to hold your head up and ignore it. That’s the only way you can carry on being you. And most of all, being a happy you.

I’ve spent more days going out of the house with less or no make-up on at all. At first you can worry about the looks because you feel like you don’t have that fresh-faced look going for you. Especially when it makes you look just as young. Then you think, to hell with that. It’s me. That’s who I am.

Even though I feel like I’m seen by more people on those kind of occasions, I just need to think, there are plenty of people who find the confidence, and so can I. Past experiences have made me switch to a less confident me at times. It’s all about passing those obstacles. They’ll be back and I just have to be strong and fight harder.

It’s good to have my confidence back

When you get that boost in your mood back, you’ll feel motivated by many things. Take today for instance, I put some music on and got my head down to get this piece together. It worked. Finally! I’ve got my confidence back.

I can breathe again without having those bundle of thoughts in the back of my mind. Or at least less of them. That’s much better than an overload of worry which often leads to headache and shakiness. I get enough of those two as it is. My migraine medication might reduce the frequency but I have to work with them too.

Isn’t it about time that you found that confidence in yourself again? If I can do it, you definitely can.

The Mind of a Worrier

I am definitely a worrier but I hope to work on that. Have you asked yourself ‘what if’ too many times? I have. It is okay to admit that you’re guilty of this. You’ve spent too much time worrying – and most the time you wonder why you ever did.

You’re bound to question things when you’re worried

And you are most certainly entitled to worry about something/someone you care about. So how do you overcome these thoughts that are overpowering your mind?

You’re letting your past control your life. This is not healthy and it certainly does not lead to a happy future. However, you can change that possibility. With a less fearless and anxious mind, you will feel slightly more at ease with life’s decisions and know how to tackle those challenges in a better way.

Consider the two questions listed below – put yourself into a situation in which you have worried about. Then, read the ideas which have been included and reflect on them in order to help you make a start with lowering your chances of an anxious mind.

You ask yourself, “Could I have done that better?”

Sometimes, you do not realise your potential and you have more intelligence than you think. However, of course, other occasions can be different. For example, perhaps you remember a more worthy answer after a job interview has already taken place.

Or maybe, you did not handle a situation very well. We have all experienced this. Nothing ever happens perfectly as perfect as it may seem from the eyes of others. If you are sorry for your actions then show remorse. If you feel you deserve another chance to prove your efforts and potential, then try to make your reasoning valued.

Today, look at yourself. Did you achieve those goals in the end? If so, do not be so hard on yourself. You’re achieving and you are going to be successful if you stay determined. On the other hand, if you dwell on something that you could have made better but did not, then you have to own up to that one. Your happiness often lies in your own hands.

You wonder what others think about you

Someone might not like you but why should their thoughts add distress to your life? People are going to make you look like a fool, more than once in your life. Your points may never be proved.

They know how to rattle you. Let them. It’s annoying isn’t it? But what’s more annoying is the fact that you have figured them out – and they know it. Regardless of whether people think you/they are right, you know the truth.

There’s two ways here, you are either lying to yourself; or they still look like the innocent one in the picture. That’s okay. You should carry on with your life and let them deal with their false perception and their false happy life that they are living.

Also, you may feel embarrassed about something. We have all experienced this too. In my eyes it’s normal – on certain levels of course. You’ve fallen off your chair in class. Or on a more serious note, you’ve felt weak when seeking advice from the totally wrong person. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. Learn to maintain the strengths and work on your weaknesses.

A smile can hide so much about a worrier

You might think I am someone who is smiley and happy every day. Oh I do try to be. But there are days that bother me (75% probably should not). So, as I have figured that most are not worth the worry, I try to take a relaxed approach where possible. Now more than ever, I aim to focus on my emotions. I tell myself to think about my reactions and how to take positives from a situation wherever there are going to be negatives.

Of course, some of life’s events can challenge your attitude. Instead, you can try to defeat those silly thoughts. You don’t know how it’ll work out until you have tried different approaches first.