3 of My Favourite Things from the Last Year

On St George’s Day, 23rd April 2018, I’ll be turning 24-years-old. Since my birthday is approaching, I wanted to take a look at my favourite things I’ve learnt and discovered during life as a 23-year-old. The last year has been of my best yet but also brought lots of challenges too. I think I look younger than my age, especially to a lot of people. But I like to think I’ve got the right level of maturity my age. That’s when I’m not in a fit of laughter finding something hilarious that no one else gets.

So, what has life as a 23-year-old gave me?

Finding the perfect job for me

On 15th May 2018, I began my role at Disabled Living as a Marketing Coordinator and Content Writer. I’m so pleased that my confidence has grew an incredible amount. No longer am I the girl who sits in the corner wondering where life is going to take her. I’m now the young woman who puts myself in the picture. I’ve met many people across my nearly to be 1 year journey. And I’ve thoroughly enjoyed it all. I’m looking forward to another year.

Experiencing a 10k run

A run with a few walks in between but I did it. I can’t believe it’s nearly been a year since me and Danny completed the Great Manchester Run. It was a lot of hard work training but an amazing feeling once we had done it. And as always, anything I can do to raise money for the British Heart Foundation, I’ll always try my best.

Mine and Danny’s 5th anniversary

The 16-year-old me saw a spark with Danny. We found our way back to each other in 2012 and finally got together in 2013. He’s everything I’ve ever dreamed for and has been the perfect person to share the journey I’ve embarked on over the last years. We’ve been there as we’ve both been chasing our dreams. He’s the most supportive and loving man in my life. Here’s to the next 5 years together. Let’s keep saving to get our home together!

When your birthday comes around this year, think about the best things you’ve done in the last year.

What’s New This January?

As I’m writing this, its Sunday 14th January. Can we all just take a moment to think about how fast 2018 is going already? Some might think, it’s only 13 days into the New Year. However, to me, Christmas feels so long ago. It’s as if it just popped by, said hello, then went within the click of someone’s fingers.

There’s always a big festive build up to Christmas, which I do love. But once January hits, its time to get back to reality, back to work, and start reaching new goals and dreams. There’s a lot that I learnt last year. And I’d like to share with you what I’m currently thinking for January so far.

I’ve been thinking it’s okay not to have New Year’s resolutions

There’s a lot of pressure once the New Year hits, to make resolutions for the year ahead. But for me, thinking of something each year, just gets hard to think of new things. So that’s why, I like to tell myself ‘let’s take everything you learnt last year and make this year an even better one’. When it comes to it, you’re in control. Okay, we can’t control all situations. But we can control how we react to them. I say, continue to be strong, be you, and good things, expected or unexpected will come your way.

After almost three weeks of not going to the gym in December, I eventually got back into it this January!

This isn’t to say that I wasn’t doing any exercise at all. I love my walking. I know that can only be the begging of exercise but it’s something! Going to the gym should be an enjoyable experience. When I look back to this time last year, I was terrified of going there. But now I go when I have the motivation to go, or tell myself I can do it, even if it’s the last thing I feel like doing. There was a lot of rubbish eating over the Christmas period. But hey, food always win. I still keep in control of the dread I have of piling on weight. But a few pounds here and there is alright. I just remind myself to be happy and do something about it if I’m not.

I was in the audience of one of television shows again

Quite regularly, I apply for tickets to be in the audience of television shows that are filmed in MediaCityUK, Salford. There are good reasons: one, it’s convenient because the location is the city I live in, and two, they’re always fun to watch. This one was called What Would Your Kid Do? It’s hosted by Jason Manford. And can I just say, he is so lovely. It was a really good watch and I can’t wait for it to air on television (ITV) when the time comes to see all of the other shows that’ll be broadcasted.

It’s been an enjoyable start to the New Year. What have you even up to? Anything exciting? Tell me in the comments below.

5 Reasons Why You Should Live Life Your Way

In November 2016, I wrote a blog post reflecting on achievements and how I’ve been shaped into the person I am today. Each year it’s good to think about what the future holds. Sometimes we can’t control what happens in our lives but we can try to make things better and just hope that better things are to come. This post discovers the reasons as to why you should live life your way.

Since writing the last post back then focusing on the high school, college, and university me, I’m proud to be the person that I am today. And it still stands to be true today that,

Many of us will go through life where people have particular perceptions of us. Some people might wish for you to go down a certain route in the future.

Since believing this even more, I’ve definitely taken my own path. I’ve independently made my own decisions. And this is something which really helps you to live life your way. Even throughout all of the worry at the beginning of last year, I am not happier and a lot less anxious than I used to be. And wow it feels so good. We all learn lessons in life of how to do things better next time, or when to not do things at all.

Thinking about this year, there are lots to look forward to. My blog will turn 3 in July, I’m saving up even more money for mine and Danny’s future, and I just know that there’s so much more to come. Throughout everything I do, I’ve learnt the importance of living life my way. Here’s why…

1. You’re a happier person when you’re being yourself

2. You have one life to live and that’s your life to live

3. It’s better to travel on a path taking your own decisions

4. It’s your chance to shine and be independent 

5. You spend life doing what you love

And that’s what it’s all about! Wouldn’t you rather spend your time, your time on earth, finding yourself, rather than living the life of someone else? The minute you think you want to act or look like someone else, you’re taking away your own personality traits, goals, and appearance.

Be the person whose the true you. The one that says “I did this for me” at the proudest moments in your life. If I wasn’t myself, I wouldn’t have been to fight to where I am today. You can’t live your life in the shoes of someone else when you’ve got your own to walk in.

What’s the thing that you love the most about living life your way?

5 Things I’m Excited to Welcome into the New Year of 2018

Here we are again, another brand new year to welcome us into the unknown. Will Alicia Keys tour in the UK, who knows?! Will I stop eating pasta and all those carbs? Probably not, don’t be silly! But as I mentioned in my blog post prior to this one, I do aim to get back to being active like I was for the most of 2017. And I aim to look after myself, wanting the best health and happiness. This includes, wanting those who mean the most to me, to be happy and healthy too.

Whether you welcomed the New Year hungover, sad, relieved, partying, dancing, whatever – this year can be your year. You might think, “Oh please, it’s just another ordinary year.” Well, what hope are you giving yourself if that’s your attitude to life? Christmas does tend to feel less Christmassy for some as we get older. But if you’re lucky to have another tomorrow, then you’ve always got another day to achieve new things and do you. I spent the Christmas break catching up with friends and family and that’s the perfect way to do it in my eyes.

What’s next?

Exploring together

Dublin in February, woo! It’s part of Danny’s Christmas present from me. I know it’ll be another lovely trip together. We love exploring and doing lots of photography. Danny has never been to Ireland. We both have family from Ireland, mine being from both sides, but I’ve only ever visited Northern Ireland. Ooo I really cannot wait to have a few days away to escape and have fun! I’m sure there will be more trips and fun-packed days ahead too.

Moving forward together

Whether it actually happens this year or we just become a lot closer to moving out, we’ll be thrilled. It’s obviously going to be the best thing ever for the both of us. We’re very excited about it and we think that if we get our heads down and save more (but still try to have life) we’ll be there before we know it.

Facing new challenges

As I’ve mentioned, a new challenge is on the cards for me. Only because I want to. And it’s part of who I am. I’ve seen a few hikes already that have inspired me but it’s about choosing the right one for us. We may even do one of our very own. We’ll figure it out but as always, we’ll be fundraising for the charities close to our hearts. Throughout it all, just like any other year, time challenges us all in different ways – emotionally, physically and so on. But we’ve got this because we have each other.

A road to more happiness

Continuing on a progressive journey. There are always new things to come. Another year to show the world what you’ve got and how strong you really can be. I’m going to take chances and try to maintain the more hopeful side of me than the worry. I love those moments where you can just be carefree and not bother what anyone else thinks, because you deserve to be happy.

Seeing what else life has to offer

Being ready for whatever else is ahead. There’s always a part of life that we can’t control; we can’t force things to happen. But we can live for now and be happy in as many moments as we can. Isn’t that all that we ever wish for, to be happy? Happiness reinforces many of our actions and I’d love to se more positive things happening around those who I love.

What’s next for you?

The Power of Strengths and Weaknesses

Today I’ve been thinking about what to write. What do I want to share that’s new, something I haven’t done before? That’s when strengths and weaknesses come into my mind. We all have them so it’s a topic for anyone to discuss about how they feel about theirs. Sometimes, no matter how hard you want to try to get rid of a weakness, it isn’t always possible. But you can help yourself by working on ways to overcome particular situations or doing something less.

We all have a weak side

Take me for instance, if you didn’t know already, I’ve always been a massive worrier. That’s my biggest weakness. I’ve realised more than ever this year though just how pointless it can be to worry about things. You think you’re right to at the time then you realise it isn’t relevant or you didn’t have anything to worry about from the start.

Like I’ve said before, it can help to have someone there to show you how strong you can be.

He has given me the most amazing adventure and it’s only been a small part of the rest of our lives together. No matter how many insecurities I’ve had, no matter what weaknesses or downfalls I have, he’s there.

Other times, it’s up to you to decide how strong you can really be. Think of all of the great things you’ve accomplished. Even if it hasn’t been your day, month, or year, there’s got to be something. Earlier this year I felt like giving up. Facing unemployment or unhappiness in the workplace takes a serious toll on so many things in your life that others don’t always realise. However, once I began to believe in myself and that the right job for me would come along, it’s one of the biggest strengths I’ve ever had.

And then we have our strong side to show

March was when it all began to crumble. I began to feel worthless but ever since May this year something changed me as a person and my attitude to everything. Seven months later, I can say that I feel like I’m moving forward. All of your past experiences and choices make you who you are today and I’m proud of where I am. Securing a new permanent position was my most-needed goal for 2017. I’m happy, I’m respected, and growing up has become a whole lot more real. And it’s probably going to become surreal when more goals for the future are accomplished.

Take moving out for example, that was my most-wanted goal for 2017. Although me and Danny haven’t yet got our own place, we understand now that we are on a better path in getting there. Saving is under way and we keep imagining what our lives will be like together in our own home. We have more of an understanding of what it takes to meet that goal and are giving ourselves as much time as it needs in order to happen. That’s another key strength of mine that I like to have – patience.

It’s all down to you, just remember that we all have strengths and weaknesses

I think it can take a lot of persistence, patience, and believing in yourself to get through any kind of year. Remember that you can dream big but you can’t have it all. You might see that some people do ‘have it all’ but you start to realise what’s important in your life. And your life is what matters the most. No matter what your strengths and weaknesses are, you can make things happen.

How to Discover a Better Version of Yourself

Being a better version of yourself doesn’t mean you’re a bad person. It’s simply about being you and wanting to work on yourself.

Let go of all the negative energy

Okay, so, you might still have a little bit of self-doubt in that mind of yours but as long as you’re filling it with more positive energy, you’re doing much better than before. You don’t always know if what you’re going to try out is going to work or take you anywhere, but it’s much better to try and give it all the optimism you’ve got to try to enjoy the journey as best as you can.

Negative thoughts equal on the most part, a very unhappy life. Not only are you damaging your mind but you’re damaging the true version of you that deserves to be happy. Whether you’re poor or rich, small or tall, you’ve got the biggest power of all – leading your happiness onto a bigger and better path.

Smile more

Get rid of the fake smile hiding behind closed doors. Show people your real smile, even if it’s just a little bit more than usual. I prefer a smiley me much more than the ‘down in the dumps, can’t be bothered’ kind of me. That’s because when I smile more, I actually am feeling happier. It really can be the little things that can make such a huge difference.

When I used to worry, I would put it all on myself rather than the people who I was around. Remember that others aren’t always going to see what you see. Sometimes you’re wrong and sometimes you’re right. I’ve learnt that life sure does feel better the more you smile. That’s something I must have got right – people know me for being smiley.

Don’t let go of all your hopes and dreams

I am a big believer in that, having something to look forward to, to fight for, and to be ambitious about, gives life a greater meaning. Dream big, eat the cake, and laugh at the silliest things. While you’re doing all of that, stand up tall (or small if you’re like me) and be proud. Something which I’ve always taken from my mum, hold your head up high.

Sometimes, we feel like we are falling down a huge dark hole or like we are going nowhere at all. It’s going to be like that at times. All the more reason to give life all you’ve got. Crying doesn’t make you weak when you feel like you’ve got the world on your shoulders. But you can show them tears that you are capable of something.

A better road to happiness

Look at me, 23-years-old, in a job I love, have the man I’ll always love, and love the life I live. Life has taken me on many adventures, to Disneyland in Paris, to a time where I didn’t believe everything was going to be okay.

This time last year, I wasn’t sure where I was going to be, I probably stressed the most I’ve ever stressed, and became pretty low. I still wanted to reinforce others to believe in themselves. I had to believe in myself first, and that’s exactly what I did.

The place where I am today feels safe and it feels right. We all experience hurt, mistakes, and wonder what if.

You’ll come to a realisation where you see the importance of looking at the now and towards the future in a more positive light. I’ve seen that something good can come out of something bad. New turns can often make the best decisions. And I’ve actually started to recognise more things about myself.

Why don’t you be true to yourself and discover a better version of yourself?