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There’s No Set Time to Grieve for the Ones You Love

Many times I’ve spoken about losing loved ones but here I am again, sharing the feelings of losing another family member. Uncle Dom, another soul taken to heaven too soon.

I remember when I was younger and my grandad received one card in particular when my granny passed away. Some of the words read, “…time will heal.” It’s true. But remember that ‘time’ is different for everyone. There’s no measurement of time that determines how long you should grieve for.

I underestimated the amount tears I’d cry. With experience of losing close family members before you think it won’t be as hard. But it is and that’s the honest truth. That’s because each individual person leaves a mark on your heart in their own special way. Uncle Dom left plenty with me – his voice of compliments on repeat; a pint to raise cheers with family and friends; and making memories with everyone.

There’s one thing I can’t promise and that’s not to cry. It’s very hard when you’re remembered by so many people near and far. Even when I think I’m okay, it only takes something small to trigger emotions. Either that or I see flashbacks – a rush of childhood memories; to growing up; to now. This can’t be where the journey ends?

You’re braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.
– Winnie the Pooh

Uncle Dom was so brave. He never complained when he got ill, he might have had some mood swings here and there but nothing other than what you’d expect to be going through was he was.

During his life he referred to things as being ‘magic’ and the fact he kept his spirits as high as possible for those around him during the hardest times was, in my eyes, magical.

It’s kinda hard not to dampen the mood. It was always granny and grandad or auntie Linda and uncle Dom. No doubt it’ll take me a while to get used to it. Even though I said I’m bound to cry at times, I’ll do my best to be as strong as I can. Auntie Linda needs you to shine bright in the sky to show her that you’re looking over her each day.

You don’t have to have it all together every single day. Life can be so hard and it’s okay not be okay. Don’t forget to surround yourself with the ones that love you.

Life can change within a very short amount of time and every moment matters. That’s why I’m fundraising for Cancer Research UK because every little bit helps towards research saving a life. At first, I was inspired to take part after seeing uncle Dom’s strength to fight but now it’s in memory of him. Donations can be made by visiting theGiving Page.

Thank you for all the kind donations so far.

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The Bravest Irishman I’ll Ever Know

Sitting here with my headphones on trying to figure out a way to put all of the words together. Facing the fact that as you get older, you lose more people in your life, can be difficult. Not just friends who drift away but family members who you were close to. I don’t believe that there’s ever a right time or that we can make ourselves ready, even if we know it’s coming.

When I take part in Race for Life next month it’s going to be a very emotional day. This isn’t only because of the huge crowds supporting Cancer Research UK. The run in Manchester takes place on the same day as my auntie and uncle’s ruby wedding anniversary. I’ve got to do this. I’ve got to help others who aren’t aware of neuroendocrine tumours.

My uncle might have been stubborn at times but his heart was always in the right place. Throughout all of my life, he was always there and he always cared. He welcomed anyone and everyone into his life. And we all know when getting a taxi home from his and auntie Linda’s, uncle Dom would always go out to the taxi driver to make sure you got you home safe.

Growing up as a child, uncle Dom always made me tea and toast for breakfast. And I mean, he would pile loads on a plate to make sure you were full. Whenever I was sent home with a bad migraine from work he was there to let me into his house to either give me a blanket to lie on the couch with or send me up to bed with a glass of water. When we were little and I stayed over with my friends, he used to come into the room at night with a torch on his face and pretend to be a ghost.

I remember sitting there with you in the living room watching Fifteen to One after school. Every time I see a cowboy or Christmas film I’ll think of you.

There’s no one quite like you. Your love for Man United, Rex and Tyson, Poker on your laptop, Irish music, a can of beer, and love for your family was like no other.

Uncle Dom you’re no longer in pain. The world is going to be such a different place without the crazy ‘Irish Salfordian’ in town. Here’s to you and all of the good times you brought into our lives. Miss and love you always.


If Cancer Research UK is close to your heart please support me as I run in memory of uncle Dom and to help others facing cancer. Donations can be made via our Cancer Research UK Giving Page. 

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To the One Who Loves Me Completely the Way I Am

This post is for the one who loves me in a way I never thought anyone could love another person.

I’m the kind of girl that gets lost in my own thoughts, the girl who loses perspective from time to time. But that’s where you come in. You hold my hand to guide me through the hardest times. You lift me up in the air and spin me around just to see me smile. Even if I say I’m okay, you make it your mission to make sure I’m more than okay.

You’ve seen it all – the weirdest, craziest, happiest, saddest versions of me

And you love me for all of them. Never have you asked me to change or do something better. But you let me know you’re there if I do want help to do something differently. Managing my emotions as you’ll know can be difficult for me to do.

It means the world to me that I’m the one you open your heart to, ever since those years ago. And I’m so glad I did with you. Many things come our way but we face them together. I could feel like I have everything hit me at once and you lift it all away.

I always say, “I’m a strong independent woman” but part of that is because I’ve had you. Without you I wouldn’t have built up the courage to achieve new things in life. And I honestly don’t know what I’d do without you. Well, I’d be lost. You have helped me shape into the woman I am today. It’s amazing to think how one person can lift your mood when you’re at your lowest. You’re also able to make me happier whenever I think we’re at ‘the happiest’ part. You show me that it’s the two of us against the world.

You’re the one I want to continue to share everything with

No matter what challenge or sadness arises, you’re always there for me. Together, I feel like we can accomplish anything. Let’s continue to dance even when there’s no music. You make me happy in more ways than you’ll ever know.

Our love is forever. I won’t always be perfect but I’ll always be yours. And you’ll always my everything.

Who’s the one who loves you for who you are?

Living Together Creates a Whole New World of Happiness

For us living together isn’t all arguments that some people make it out to be. In all honesty, we just don’t argue, it’s not us. If we feel an atmosphere we either talk it through if there’s an issue or we wonder what we’re actually doing and hug it out. Little nags here and there is all normal but it means absolutely nothing when living together is the best thing in the world. 

A brand new house all to ourselves

We have never felt happiness like it. You think the amount of years you’ve spent together, the travels, adventures, endless amounts of laughter is as good as it gets. But there’s so much more. Living together opens a whole new world. I don’t think I could ever get bored of eating together, waking up to each other and spending more time together.

It doesn’t have to be all of the stress that people make it out to be. Sure, there are times that’ll test you if something doesn’t work or something isn’t how you expected to look or be. But guess what? You get through it together. Laugh it off or for the more serious stuff, tell each other that it’ll get sorted because you’ve got this! Them kind of moments take patience and keeping the motivation that everything will and is coming together.

The money side of having our own home hasn’t once made us panic. We’re very sensible when it comes to bills and putting our priorities in order. That being said, we also now how important it is to ‘live’ – not only to survive but to enjoy life. Being so strict with our savings and staying organised helped us a great deal. We loved working through everything together from the buying process to moving and purchasing decor for our new home. It all seemed so easy because we did it together. The best things in life take time and this has definitely been the best and biggest yet.

Neither of us have ever wanted anything more or wanted so long

But that’s me and Danny, we never rush into anything. We built our relationship from friendship to love, learning to know each other in all kind of ways. Watching each other grow and achieving this milestone is just more amazing than words can describe.

On a personal level, I feel like a weight has been taken off my shoulders. I always had a big bundle of worry as you might have noticed if you’ve seen some of my other blog posts. But now, I’m a new person. Maybe my confidence will improve to? I hope so. 

Living together has opened my eyes to finally believe that, having each other is all that matters. Nothing else, no opinions need to get in the way.

Living together brings you even closer

Every hug, small or big gesture towards the other – it means everything. You value it all. Leaving the odd sock on the floor really doesn’t matter when it means you’re in each other’s company a whole lot more. Oh and it’s a bonus that the sunset views at night are so nice!

This is everything and more than we’ve ever dreamed of. Does it get any better?

Another Dream Come True and It’s Only the Beginning

Remember when I said me and Danny are awaiting our next big adventure? As of Thursday 28th February we officially became home owners. We are so proud of ourselves and are so happy that we have achieved something so amazing together.

It’s been a long time coming. Every step of the way we have supported each other and everything is going really well. Along the way I’ve made the Monica joke by saying, “I’m going to be living with a BOY!” But when it comes to it, I’m so excited to live with my best friend. One particular thing was said by my brother, “I get why you have both been so patient.” It was one of the nicest things to hear. He understands how much this means to us and how long we’ve waited for it to happen.

The happiest years of my life and the best is yet to come

We have combined our tastes, to most of which we share anyway. In all honesty it’s been quite overwhelming for me. I’m still telling myself it’s all ours and nobody can take it away from us. I think the reason why it’s so hard to believe is because most days I wonder how I ever got Danny never mind owning a house with him!

The world works in mysterious ways. And it shows you that things you thought could only ever happen in your dreams really can come true. It’s so much more than I imagined it to be already. The world brought us together for a reason. From just knowing each other as somebody from primary school, to locking eyes in the college corridors, to falling in love. It’s been a huge adventure in itself. Our years together have been everything. But this moment right here shows us that there’s more to discover.

I’ve cried, smiled bursting with happening and jumped all around the house. But most of all I’ve felt the most in love I’ve ever been. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve been here doubting myself but I’m working on it. It helps to have the most kind-hearted, loving person in my life and wherever he is will always be home.

He’s forever my dream come true!

This is just the beginning of our new adventure, one which I am extremely excited to explore. I can only imagine that our love for one another will grow even stronger and we’ll be happy in our home for many many years.

Part of this journey has taught me how important it is to stick to the things that make you happy regardless of what anyone else has to say. Don’t let anyone step in front of anything good that comes your way. Something you’ve worked so hard for should be celebrated.

Stay posted to hear more about our move and places we recommend for furnishings, flooring, blinds etc.

The Most Kind-Hearted Man in My Life

My ‘Danny Guy’ as I used to always refer to him, amazes me every single day. He is the most kind-hearted man on earth.

Today I shared a photo of Danny giving platelets at one of the donation centres in Manchester. One his friends commented saying that, “He’s a beautiful man with a beautiful soul.” At first, we both giggled and thought, “Aww how sweet!” Not that I didn’t know already, but it got me thinking about just how much I love him.

He is the sweetest, most caring person I’ve ever known. I used to wonder if I would ever meet anyone as generous and kind-hearted as my grandad. Surely not? But no, I was wrong. Ever since Danny became a significant person in my life, he opened up a whole new world. He has shown me that I can tell him anything and that he won’t judge an inch of my body or my personality.

The kind-hearted man he is and more…

I love his determination to always thrive for bigger and better things. Together we make the perfect pair because we reach our goals together. Even the personal ones, we’re there to support each other to meet them. What’s more is this man’s ability to juggle everything at once. He would have a million things going on but he’s right there whenever you need him. He’s forever making me feel as if nothing else matters as long as I’m happy. Every day is a new adventure. He wants to show me the world.

danny donating platelets with needle in his arm

Danny never stops showing me the importance of happiness

Without the inspiration of my grandad and Danny, who unfortunately never met or never even knew each other, I wouldn’t have started this blog. Of all the things I’ve been surrounded by, these two have given me a real insight to perseverance. No matter how hard times get, how difficult it can be to tackle obstacles, it’s important to believe in what matters, what’s always mattered. And that’s having each other. With grandad, it was always about being yourself and seeing how you grow as a person. With Danny, it’s that and more…

Grandad never stopped showing how much he loved those who were close to him. He did anything and everything he could. One of the biggest hearts who was taken too soon. But I believe in ways, the lessons I learnt from him helped me to mature into the woman I am today. And I couldn’t be more thankful than my path took me back to Danny.

He is everything and more

To have a man who reminds you of so many things and gives you more than you ever thought the future could hold feels amazing. And at times, I have to remember that I’m living in reality and I really do have him. For all that he is and everything he continues to thrive for, is what makes me love him more and more each passing day.

There’s no other man in the world who I want by my side in everything that I do. He always wants to make a difference. If somebody is in need, he does his damnedest to help in any way he can. Danny always values my opinion and will always respond with honesty. Throughout all that he is, the thing I love the most is how true he is to himself. There’s an incredible amount of kindness in his nature. And he is handsome inside and out. There’s no doubt in my mind that I’ll ever come across anybody who is as amazing as Danny.