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Taking Chances Can Lead to the Best Adventures

Do you ever look back to see how much you’ve grown? One minute you’re at the point where you don’t really look into your future. Well, the future is unknown but it’s nice to think what could be and where you could go. How often do you think about taking chances?

In the past there were occasions when I probably spent too much time trying to be the person I thought others wanted me to be. Or trying to be a kind of person that ‘fits in with the crowd’. But it didn’t take me long to realise that the best person you can be is yourself. There’s billions of us on earth so why would we want to be like everyone else?

Stop to think, “I’m going to be myself and I’m going to do my best.”

I can be a quiet person but it doesn’t mean to say that I’m not bubbly and fun because I also have that side too. Once someone really knows me or clicks with me there’s a level of weirdness and randomness you’ll see from me and isn’t think, “Ah that’s just Tasha being Tasha.”

When I was a teenager I didn’t really think too much into the future. For me, it was all about trying to succeed at school, college and university. And to hopefully end up in a job I enjoy. Never did I think I’d of found a love so strong, a man I can call my best friend, and that we would be in the process of buying our new home together. Without the determination to get to where I am today, that wouldn’t have been possible.

Life is about taking chances. I said yes to being with Danny (after many attempts of him asking me), an organisation took a chance saying yes to employing me, and together me and Danny have said yes to facing any challenges that have come our way.

Taking chances can be scary but it can be so exciting too.

Just when you feel so complete, it’s incredible to think that even more amazing things can happen. They don’t come without challenges along the way, but that’s part of taking chances. Your accepting the possibilities that other things could happen or things might not go to plan, but hoping for the best.

I’m so lucky to be where I am today with Danny. I can’t wait to take more chances and see where the world takes us.

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Looking Towards the Future Is Such an Exciting Thing

Earlier me and Danny were talking about how we can wish the week away wishing it was Friday as soon as Monday arrives. We all wish for a longer weekend, right? It’s not so good to wish your life away but of course, it’s always nice to have things to look forward to.

We’re using small milestones to reach our goal of getting the house. The excitement is killing us inside but we want to wait until we’re further into the process so we know for sure that, without a doubt, it’s really happening.

While I’m on a positive trade of thought towards the future, there are a few things that have been on my mind recently.

I’m in one of the happiest places I’ve ever been.

You know when you’re sat there thinking “I’m really happy where I am right now?” Well, that’s how it is at the moment. And it’s only going to get better. If we both keep working hard and stay motivated, the journey we’re sharing is going to become even more incredible.

The worrier I used to be doesn’t exist as half as much as it used to. Being yourself is the best way forward and having someone who loves every inch you inside and out, is my version of perfect. The reality is, he goes above and beyond everything I’ve ever dreamt of.

Having patience really does help you.

Sometimes you want things to happen right here and now. But looking towards the future is so much better, as you can see how worthwhile it really is. If everything happened exactly when you wanted it to, surely you’d run out of things to look forward to? I think it leads to more excitement when you’re closer to such an important event in your life.

Patience helps you to be healthier mentally. You’re not stressing about what’s to come. You simply live in the moment and know that time will take its course. Good things are coming, you have to keep believing that they will.

There’s no one else on earth I want to share my future with.

I couldn’t be more sure about this one. He’s the one person I want to experience the same old things with and all of the new. Danny has taken me on the biggest journey of my life and it’s only going to get more amazing. How does he put up with my weird, random antics? We’re a right pair! Just the other day we were both in stitches in public and laughing together is one of my favourite things to do.

Count your lucky stars when you have someone and something to hold onto forever. Use each experience to go from strength to strength. Together, you can get everywhere you want to go regardless of what anybody else thinks.

What have you been feeling excited about recently as you’re looking towards the future?

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The Moment You Start to Feel Like You Again

Do you have a period in your life where you wish you could feel like you again? Of course you do. That’s because we all do. It’s called being human. There are times where we feel like we might have stopped making an effort, or making the effort is what drains you.

Remember to not lose sight of the things that make you happy and make you feel your best.

How amazing is the feeling when you start to feel like you again?

Last weekend was the first time I’ve had my hair done in three months. I went for the full pamper – highlights, cut, blow dry and treatment. And wow I feel as if I look like me again! I couldn’t stop feeling my hair to feel how much healthier it was. I didn’t care if no one noticed because I felt amazing!

Maybe I’ll get round to painting my nails some time soon as I keep saying I will…

Back to the things I love.

Today is the first time in two weeks that I’ve posted on Instagram. I usually have stock of photos ready to upload multiple times in the week. But I finally got around to editing a few this evening. And with Amsterdam coming up at the end of next month, there’s bound be loads more new travel shots coming your way.

And here I am writing a blog post. You hear of many people saying that they’re “neglecting” their blog. But in my eyes, I post when I have the right motivation to do so. I don’t believe the whole “bad blogger” thing.

Exciting things are happening.

Very serious times now. No more nipping in that shop to see what cute top is on offer. It’s all about keeping extra money aside for our future. Me and Danny are finally hitting an exciting step in our lives. There are months to go but we can’t wait to make a house our home if all goes to plan. As Danny said the other night as he ran and kissed me good night, “Tasha… it’s happening!”

Anyone who knows me understands how long I’ve waited for it all the start happening. I’ve been buying kitchen utensils, bathroom furnishings, and new bedding for the past two years. Yeah we’ll see different sides to each other considering we’ll be living together but I don’t doubt for one minute that we’ll ever grow to hate each other.

Being happy in the moment and looking forwards the future…

I’ve learnt to ignore anyone’s comments that are nothing but positive. The future will be amazing because we’re going to make it amazing, having each other, just as we always have. We have worked so hard to head in this direction stepping closer to something we’ve dreamt of for years. No one is going to change that.

Is there anything that’s happened recently to make you feel like you again? Have you got any exciting news? Tell me in the comments below.

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3 Things to Remember When You’re Feeling Frustrated

It’s creeping back, that cloud of feeling frustrated by lots of little things. Rather than being angry I seem more upset. It’s as if working myself up to be annoyed is too much so I just cry and wish people would hold back. Why’s it so difficult for people to do that? Unfortunately we all know that’s not the case. Everybody has to comment on something and it’s so bloody annoying. But life is sometimes, isn’t it?

I’m listening to ‘September Song’ by JP Cooper to chill me out and I think it’s working you know it’s led me to write this blog. Listening to music and blogging really relaxes me. It’s quite therapeutic actually. As amazing as it would be to live a life which isn’t surrounded by judgements and assumptions, the reality is that, there always going to be there.

Throughout any kind of frustration in your life remember these 3 things:

1. Don’t take it out on the wrong person

You can let your emotions get the best of you. Rather than letting the ones who love you and care listen, you take your frustration out on them. Don’t worry, it’s something we’ve all done at some point. Once you realise that you’re hurting the wrong person, you find other ways to revert back to the happier version of yourself before you worried about what anybody says.

2. Just keep being you and do what makes you happy

Okay so now I’m listening to ‘Who You Are’ by Jessie J. She tells us that it’s okay not to be okay. But throughout anything, it’s important to “be true to who you are”. Let’s not allow others ruin our happiness. If you’ve got something good going for you, be proud and keep moving forward. Nothing and no one is perfect but you can have your own kind of perfect. And you deserve to be happy so keep at it.

3. Sometimes it’s best to be in your own company

Listen to music, go for a walk, watch a nice or funny film, find something that works for you. The worst thing you can do though, is to be alone and sit in complete silence in a bundle of worrying thoughts. Find something to concentrate on or something to distract you from feeling frustrated. And yes you guessed it, music and blogging helps with on this one as well.

It can drain you to the point where you become so upset so it’s important to find the things that work for you. What are the 3 things that help you when you’re feeling frustrated?

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Would You Rather Meet Someone’s Expectations Or Go Beyond Them?

Do you ever feel like you need to meet someone’s expectations? It’s crazy how we live in a world like this. Some people are brought up having to achieve certain grades and milestones to make their parents proud.

My childhood was always about doing my best and if great results followed that was just a bonus. The main thing my parents wanted was for me to play, make friends, and learn new things in the process. But there have still been times where I feel like I disappointed them. It’s something we go through even as we get older.

The growing up stage

Growing up you learn that some friendships are forever and some drift away. And that’s okay. You’re still continuing to learn… you always are no matter no age. Facing the fear of not meeting someone’s expectations will worry you. Why? Because you’re afraid they’ll think less of you, or take away your feeling of being ‘good enough’.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve punished myself for not doing as well in something as I thought I would. Sometimes it’s about making more effort and a whole lot of hard work. But not always. At times, you’ve done all you can and it is what it is. As much of a challenge as it’s been, choosing to go on my own path had led me to the best things in life.

The 3 things that have brought out the best happiness in me are:

Sticking to my passion for media and writing

Throughout primary school (writing stories), high school (beginning a media studies qualification) and continuing with that in college and university. It led me to the job I’m in today which I wouldn’t have got with sticking to my dreams and working hard.

Doing things to remember the ones I’ve loved and lost

I’m glad that grandad has his name with granny on their plot. Having his name on there is so important to me. Completing the Great Manchester Run in memory of him was one of the most emotional rollercoasters. And it was one of my biggest accomplishments. I’ve also created my fundraising own event to raise awareness of premature babies, still births, and baby loss for Tommy’s. You might have seen my mum’s story about her experience of a still birth.

Being in a long-term relationship with my boyfriend who’s so much more than a ‘boyfriend’ – he’s my best friend.

Everything I see in my future is with him. He gets frustrated with some of my insecurities and worries because he wishes I’d see what he does. Having someone who sees nothing but the best in you regardless of your flaws releases an amazing feeling.

It goes to show that you can go beyond your own expectations of yourself.

Be proud of yourself. There’s nothing wrong with taking pride in what you do. I’ve probably told you several times that life is living. Make a list of all the things you’ve ever wanted to do and plan how/when you can do them. If being happy means you need to remove yourself from environments that drown you in misery then leave. Ask for help if you’re struggling. Surround yourself with positive people and a positive mind will follow.

The key message is, everyone struggles in some way or another.

Have more faith in yourself and you’ll see that more things seem possible rather than impossible. So what do you prefer to do – meet someone’s expectations or choose your own goals and choices? I’d love to know what you think. Comment below or tell me via Tasha Lifestyle on Twitter.

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We All Face Change at Least Once in Our Lives

Some people don’t like change but guess what, there’s always going to be something that doesn’t remain the same. I don’t mean the weather or the food you eat tonight for your tea. I’m talking more about employment, relationships, health etc. There’s a consequence to everything that we do.

There are also things we just can’t control but they happen anyway.

Over the past year I’ve heard people facing redundancy more than I ever have before. I’ve seen relationships crumble and others that have rekindled. There’s been sad news affecting people’s health. But do you know what I think about whenever any of these things happen? Hope. Having hope keeps you at an optimistic state of mind. But it’s also important to not get too ahead of yourself. It’s okay to have some of the other possibilities in mind too.

You can look at someone and think they’ll never change, whether it’s for the good or the bad. Or you can look at someone and hope that maybe they’ll work to change just one thing if nothing at all. I’ve always told myself that I’m the type of person who I associate myself with. Through the years, the number of people you chill with, hang with, or call your mates can go down. That doesn’t mean you don’t have any friends or you’re lonely. It means you keep the people who you value and who value you.

Change challenges us all at least once in our lives.

There are things that change every day. And there are things that even though they seem like they never change, can change once in while. The main thing is keeping hold of who you are.

Surround yourself with the people who love you and those who want you to be happy. Situations changing won’t even seem like such a huge thing when you’ve got the best people to support you throughout it all.