The 3 Things I Believe in Most in This World

We all have our own life mottos. The things we feel strong about are always there inside us. It’s good to have things to believe in. But sometimes, we become so distracted that we put them aside. We moan about the little things. And we wish for bigger and better days. That’s why I’m sharing this post – to shed some light on the perspective that we just need a little reminder of.

Every second counts

The time remaining in our future is unknown. I’ve always said I want to live until I’m 100 – to experience the biggest life lessons early and come out stronger. To have many years to smile. To travel and explore my dream destinations. And most of all to be happy around the ones I love the most.So why is it that have a tendency to complain about things that aren’t really the worst things in the world? Next time you feel a huge rant coming on, where it isn’t needed, take a deep breath and just accept what is. Stressing over something that won’t matter tomorrow is unnecessary.

We all make mistakes

There’s no need to be defined by our past. We should learn from our biggest mistakes. But that doesn’t mean to say that we’ll be perfect in the future. There’s one thing that is possible, being the best person you can be.  One thing that isn’t healthy is dwelling so much on the past.Like I said before, the amount of time our future holds in unknown. So surely we should be doing out utmost to enjoy this time? In the workplace, we get things wrong. We don’t always make the right decisions. We wish we would’ve avoided certain situations. But it’s life. Throw away all the negativity and live for today. Be clear on what and who is important to you – then you’ll get that perspective back and begin to love yourself again.

You should always keep your loved ones close

When I move out it’ll be one of the most exciting things I’ll ever do. But it’ll also be strange not seeing at least one of parents every day. That’s why I’m going to make sure we stay in touch. It’d be impossible not to. I like to think that me and my brothers are close and they can still tell me anything.And the one thing I used to fear but could never imagining it happening anymore, is losing Danny. Sometimes I think I’ve lost perspective. It upsets me when we don’t see each other much or we aren’t able to talk to each other a lot throughout the day. But then it hits me – we still have each other. We have so much to look forward to. And if we are open with one another and share our dreams together, there’s nothing stopping us.What do you believe in the most?

To the Girl Who Wants to Be Herself

Are you just a girl who wants to be herself? You’ll feel so much better once you figure out how to. Even if it doesn’t feel like you can right now, eventually you’ll find the strength to. It starts with controlling how to react to other people’s actions and opinions towards you. You need to remember that its their deal. Let them think whatever they like. You’re stronger than that. And you’re definitely much smarter than they are.

You’re capable of so many things

You always tend to underestimate your capabilities. Your mind works overdrive on little things. And you compare yourself to others. It doesn’t get you anywhere though does it? You know you’re not worthless. But you just struggle to find that boost of confidence that you need right now. You’re actually not a weak person, you know. You just think you are.

Walking down the corridor at school, college, or university, you may have been alone a lot of the time. That doesn’t make you weak. See it as a young woman who’s independent and can be by herself. It’s nice to have company sometimes and share laughs. Other times, its good to be part of the world where you don’t have to ‘fit into the crowd’. Be your own person. Create your own kind of happiness.

Feel good to be you

Wear makeup. Don’t wear makeup. Talk a lot. Or don’t speak at all. You’re far from weak. Be the girl who stands up for what she believes in. Be the woman who sees how much she’s grown and can see how far she’s come. Don’t be afraid to express yourself. Be creative. Tell people your ideas. Do something that you love and are so passionate about. Be extraordinary. Surprise people.

Focus on the people who focus on you. Sometimes, you might not know it but you actually inspire them in some way or another. Stay in and chill. Go to a party. Take a walk. Travel. Explore the world. Enjoy the things in life that most people take for granted or don’t even recognise. Make plans that give you something to look forward to.

It’s down to you

Wake up with a smile on your face no matter what day of the week it is. It’s all about what you put into the day no matter how stressful or difficult it might be. Remember what’s important. Surround yourself with the people who make you feel like you matter. Remember, being yourself doesn’t have to please everyone.

You’ll find the strength you never knew you had – one step at a time. Living life your way will never have felt so good. Are you going to try to be the girl who wants to be herself?

5 Ways to Wind Down and Relax

Some weeks can be so hectic that you don’t really feel like you get any ‘me time’ to relax. As someone with hypertension, which is now controlled, I’ve seen and felt what a toll stressful situations can have on your body. Inside and out. But I’ve also learn that you have a choice on how you react to all of life’s scenarios, just as I’ve said before.

For us girls and maybe you guys too, it’s nice to come home, stick our joggers or pyjamas on and enter a complete chill out zone. Obviously, things can get in the way but when this happens it’s just bliss. Below are some ways to relax that could help you.

Take a bath or shower

Baths tend to be more relaxing than showers for some. However, other people need something more refreshing like a shower. Whichever one works for you, take an extra 5-10 minutes than you usually would. I definitely enjoy longer baths and showers when there’s the extra time to spend. Use your favourite soap, bubble bath, shower cream, bath bomb etc.

Listen to music

You’ll know what type of music helps you to relax. But if not there are some good playlists on Spotify such as Mellow Pop, several choices from the ‘Chill’ category, and Acoustic Covers. I don’t know why but there’s something much more soothing when listening to music through earphones/headphones. It’s as if the music is closer to your ears and it makes you stop and take everything in.

Put your feet up

I’m not really a put your feet up and drink a glass of wine kind of person. But I do enjoy putting my feet up and having a cup of tea (the inner granny in me). I steered away from tea for a few months due to monitoring my health but it made no difference so yay! Whether it’s in your living room by the tv or in bed, grab your favourite quilt/blanket and get as cosy as you can.

Go for a walk

I always think to myself when I’m on holiday, how amazing it would be to live near a beach. Listening to the sea waves and breeze does nothing but relax me (when it’s calm that is). It always makes me happy when I see people walking their dogs. I actually smile Walking helps you to escape and fresh air gives you a sense of forward thinking. There might be a particular place you like to go. Mine is visiting granny and grandad at the cemetery. It doesn’t make me sad. It does nothing but help me put things into perspective.

Be in the best company you need

If you have someone who knows you inside out, spend time with them. They know if you need to talk to release a feel of relaxation. They also know whether you need silence. Or if you simply need a hug. Sometimes you might just need them to be there while you fall asleep. Knowing you have them and feel them with you is enough to tell you that everything’s going to be okay.

All of these in their own way teach you what it’s important. Sometimes, looking after yourself needs to come first.

What helps you to relax? Share your thoughts in the comments box further down the page.

Stick to Being Happy Rather Than Wondering

Sitting here wondering what to write when deep down you’ve had an idea of something you’ve been thinking about writing – being happy. You hear the sentences through your head on your way home from work. But getting to grips with how to put it all together is another story. So here goes. This is going to be a post which literally comes out as I write down thoughts that pop into my head.

We spend so much time wishing for things. And sometimes they can be for things you want to happen that probably won’t. I don’t mean the game console you’ve been dying to by or the outfit you’ve had your eye on for ages. This is more about longing for something to happen. I’ve come to terms that it’s okay to dream of nice things. I’ve always told myself and others that it’s okay to dream big. Do what makes you happy.

But here’s something to think about… 

Do you ever find yourself wishing you could go back in time? Perhaps you wanted to change something? Or relive a moment all over again. Reality can get you down. But it can also be so worthwhile. You can think you’ve had the worst day/week/month, whatever. There’s always something who’s really struggling. Be grateful for those who love to be around you. Make it a whole lot easier on yourself and disregard the ones who couldn’t give a damn. You’ll be happy then.

Memories can come flooding back, good or bad. But where you are right now in this moment is what counts. Everything you’ve experienced in your life so far is shaped who you are today. So what, you could’ve done that differently and you certainly couldn’t handled that better. But you know what? Life goes on. We shouldn’t spend time going over and over on things. It’s so damaging.

Hold onto the good things that make or have made you happy

Hold the memories that made the smile. The ones that made you feel like you were the most careless, free-spirited version of you. There’s nothing stopping you from being that person again. I like to think that even when there’s silence between people, it doesn’t mean to say either of them doesn’t care about the other. Time teaches us so much. It can show you that you can genuinely drift away onto different paths.

There’s another side I like to look at. And that’s the people who would probably never get it. But it can make you feel so happy when there’s a little bit of conversation there. Or even more than you imagined. When they haven’t forgot things. And it’s as if nothing’s changed no matter how much time apart – that’s another good thing to hold onto. You might wish you had the chance to see someone again. Don’t lose perspective. We all have our lives to live and so on. There’s so much in your life to value. And there’s probably things you wouldn’t even realise that people value about you.

So yeah, it’s been a bit of all things tonight. But there’s got to be someone out there who can grasp what I’m trying to say. Drifting away from this a little bit here’s a little update with me…

Maybe I’m getting somewhere, maybe I’m not?

Since more tests and investigations, the mystery continues. I kinda had a feeling this was going to happen anyway. All of my tests are complete. The kidney and bladder scan came back normal (so the receptionist said) yay! Just one more appointment to go before holiday now. And that’s something I really can’t wait for. To just relax and not have to worry about a thing. I’ve been referred to the hospital in June once I’m back though. And I can guarantee they’ll think my body is a mystery too! But they have to keep searching I guess. Staying happy is the main thing. I better try to keep at it…

May Bank Holiday Weekend 2018

This weekend it was Danny’s 25th birthday so it gave us more reason to look forward to the k hok holiday weekend. On Friday I had my 24 hour BP monitor on but I got to take it off at 7.30am the next day. So that didn’t get in the way of anything. Although, I didn’t have the best night’s sleep. And I also woke up at 5.40am on Saturday morning and of course I couldn’t wait to wish Danny a happy birthday.

You know when you lay there and you think, “Awww I’ll let them sleep?” Well how long does that usually last for you? I went back to sleep for as long as I could with 4 more readings on the monitor to go. And then finally it I could take it off. I tried again to wake Danny. The poor man. All he wanted to do was enjoy his sleep. I suppose that doesn’t always happen with an early riser like me around.

Rise and shine sleepy head

His eyes were open and he smiled as I wished him a happy birthday (several times including singing it to him). He opened the small gift bag with a present from me inside. He smiled again. This time it was because we were once in a taxi and he asked the taxi driver what aftershave he was wearing. I went and bought that one (possibly a different edition but still).

He then opened his card and noticed on the left hand side that I had printed out a little message reading:

Guess where we’re going? 20th – 23rd November.

A picture with bikes around a canal only meant one place – Amsterdam. He’s always mentioned about wanting to go there one day. And how it would be nice to go together. I’m so glad that we have another little adventure to look forward to. We’re both excited for the canal views, cycling, the city’s heritage, and much more. It’s going to be an amazing place for photography I’m sure.

A day out on Saturday

We decided to take a train journey out to Hebden Bridge. It’s only 3 stops away from Manchester Victoria Station. With the sunshine making an appearance this bank holiday weekend, it definitely made a difference. We and walked the afternoon away exploring around the village. Everything was so vintage and perfect for photography opportunities.

Everybody was out enjoying the sunshine and there was a great happy atmosphere. What was one of the first things we did? Buy an ice cream of course. I was like a baby eating mine. Enjoying it so much, we were walking over a bridge, and Danny turned around to see me nearly getting it all over me as the ice cream was melting!

I’d say we did pretty well with the amount of walking we did especially the hilly areas in the heat. Can you tell that we don’t get sunny weather very often? That’s our hometown Salford for you. It was nice to have a change of scenery and do something different for the bank holiday weekend. We took a moment towards the end of our time there to sit by the canal and relax. Lots of kids were laughing and splashing in the water. Oh we wished we were that age again!

A Sunday without the pre-Monday blues

view from cloud 23 Hilton hotel manchester

Usually on a Sunday I think, “Nooo. Why does it have to be Monday already tomorrow?” But luckily, the bank holiday weekend came to our rescue. We had another day to enjoy before going back to work. I began my day with an appointment I had coming up for a scan on my kidneys and bladder. Me and mum then walked home as it was another nice day.

My best friend Faye treated me to afternoon tea, which was my first ever experience. And to top it off it was at the Hilton in Manchester at Cloud 23. I’d never been there before neither. It was really nice and lots of little treats to enjoy.

I spent the rest of the day chilling in the garden with mum and dad. And later on Danny’s sister asked us round. So we spent a few hours there. And then more family turned up which was lovely. Hot dogs, burgers, and laughs. An enjoyable afternoon. The tiredness hit me though. I’ve been feeling very tired recently.

I went to bed as soon as I got home and put a film on. I was asleep around 9.30pm or earlier. Almost 3 hours later I woke up with an excruciating pain on the left of my abdomen. I was in tears. I hadn’t quite had a pain that strong before. Similar but not as strong. I lifted myself out of bed feeling dizzy and unbalanced. And then the sickness feeling. Ugh. My head is still pounding today and I’ve had the pins and needles in my fingers all weekend which is what I’m used to with migraines.

A different kind of Monday

Monday arrived which means I eventually got myself back to sleep. I began my day with the gym. But I didn’t do any heavy cardio just in case. It definitely was the best decision not to miss the gym. It always gives me a better start to the day when I go.

Me and Danny spent the afternoon shopping. Although we only come away with one bag.  Danny found himself some birthday treats/things for our holiday. And we grabbed something to eat too. I’ve loved this bank holiday weekend. It’s been full of smiles and sunny weather. I’m hoping that our doctors appointments both go well tomorrow.

Back to reality in the morning. Here comes the rain…

Feeling Good About Yourself Starts with You!

Since my last post, I’ve realised so much more about body confidence. It’s time to realise that feeling good about yourself is so important. I told you all that I wanted to tone up and not lose any weight. That’s pretty much down to wanting to feel better about myself. I’m not overweight. However, it does feel good to see that I’ve lost 4lbs and that’s made me happier. Those pounds to me are what I noticed; but not necessarily what others see. Increasing the amount of exercise I do has definitely decreased bloating. And it has made me feel good about myself.

How I feel about myself on the inside is what needs to matter the most to be right now though. As you may already be aware, I’ve had high blood pressure for almost 7 months or so now. It’s just so strange as the doctor put it today. I’m 24-years-old. There was a point where I had this back in 2014 but in-between then everything seemed fine or so we thought. It’s in the doctor’s interest to pinpoint why this is. Especially as I was put on the highest dose of Ramipril and it hasn’t made a difference. Step 1 was always the lifestyle side. But nope, no difference.

But if I keep going, it’ll be okay. What’s inside really does count.

So it’s back to a BP monitor again later this week; ECG and another blood test on Wednesday; referral to chemical pathology; and wait for the appointment for a scan on my kidneys. I’m pretty sure everything’s going to come back fine. But meanwhile it’s just making me a little bit fed up. I actually hope it’s down to it being hereditary. Hopefully I’ll know soon.

I’ve learn that I need to be happy with who I am – inside and out. Accept that the people who care about you are the ones you need. You can’t force someone to care. Nor can you force someone to like you. It’s always nice when people who you’ve known over the days still see you in the same light today. I also think it’s nice when the little things make you smile in the day. You begin to realise where your happiness lies. Be happy about who you are and embrace it.

What are your thoughts on feeling good about yourself? Tell me in the comments box further below or via Twitter @tashalifestyle.