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Living in a Positive World Starts with You

Living in a positive world can seem far from easy when there are so many negative happening. Sure, but have you ever considered all of the wonderful things that there are to live? Whenever I think something goes wrong, I tell myself that “It could be worse” or that “There are worse things going on in the world.” It’s important to steer towards positive thinking about the future. The happiness in your life starts with you.

A positive mindset, positive friendships and relationships and feeling positive about yourself are three key things to living in a positive world.

Among the high level of pressure in today’s society to achieve things by a certain age to be successful or look a certain way to be classed as attractive is ridiculous. Be whoever the hell you want to be and don’t let anybody else’s appearance determine how attractive you are. There’s beauty in everyone and behind each and every human being are backgrounds that no one could have a clue about. That’s why I think we should grow into our own person rather than what we have seen.

Start with loving yourself

You can’t make people love you so why not love yourself? One of my weaknesses is self-criticism. Whether it be my face, my figure, my hair, skin (the list goes on) there’s always something to pick out. And if it’s not physical it’s wishing I could do better. More recently though, I’ve been recognising my potential. I’ve always believed in taking footsteps on my own journey rather than a vision of somebody else’s. Making my own choices has built the foundation of my happiness today.

Don’t be like everybody else

What’s the fun in being the same as everybody else? I’m probably one of the weirdest and random people you will ever meet. I know it and so do the closest people around me. I’m quiet sometimes but I’m also the giddiest at other times. Following the crowd isn’t my kind of thing. I’m happy to say that I’ve got a handful of close friends and not a single one of them has ever asked me to be different. Every single one of my friends have something different about them that I love. Express those personality traits regardless of what anyone has to say. Being your natural self is the best and you’ll be much happier.

Always believe that something amazing can happen

Going back 5-10 years ago, do you think I imagined to be where I am today? Nope. Having ambition, working incredibly hard and finding who are along the way has helped. I entered this world 3 months early so to my parents, I’ve probably always done the unexpected. I never thought I’d have a man in life who could love me just as much as a father love his daughter or a grandad loves his granddaughter. Being a homeowner by the age of 24 was never a plan but it happened at the right time and with the right person. Heading into a media/writing skilled carer was something that I thought was never going to happen but it did.

Never back down when life gives you heartbreak, challenges, or a sense of disbelief. Always be yourself and never let anyone dull your sparkle.

4 plant pots that together spell 'HOME'

Living Together Creates a Whole New World of Happiness

For us living together isn’t all arguments that some people make it out to be. In all honesty, we just don’t argue, it’s not us. If we feel an atmosphere we either talk it through if there’s an issue or we wonder what we’re actually doing and hug it out. Little nags here and there is all normal but it means absolutely nothing when living together is the best thing in the world. 

A brand new house all to ourselves!

We have never felt happiness like it. You think the amount of years you’ve spent together, the travels, adventures, endless amounts of laughter is as good as it gets. But there’s so much more. Living together opens a whole new world. I don’t think I could ever get bored of eating together, waking up to each other and spending more time together.

It doesn’t have to be all of the stress that people make it out to be. Sure, there are times that’ll test you if something doesn’t work or something isn’t how you expected to look or be. But guess what? You get through it together. Laugh it off or for the more serious stuff, tell each other that it’ll get sorted because you’ve got this! Them kind of moments take patience and keeping the motivation that everything will and is coming together.

The money side of having our own home hasn’t once made us panic. We’re very sensible when it comes to bills and putting our priorities in order. That being said, we also now how important it is to ‘live’ – not only to survive but to enjoy life. Being so strict with our savings and staying organised helped us a great deal. We loved working through everything together from the buying process to moving and purchasing decor for our new home. It all seemed so easy because we did it together. The best things in life take time and this has definitely been the best and biggest yet.

Neither of us have ever wanted anything more or wanted so long.

But that’s me and Danny, we never rush into anything. We built our relationship from friendship to love, learning to know each other in all kind of ways. Watching each other grow and achieving this milestone is just more amazing than words can describe.

On a personal level, I feel like a weight has been taken off my shoulders. I always had a big bundle of worry as you might have noticed if you’ve seen some of my other blog posts. But now, I’m a new person. Maybe my confidence will improve to? I hope so. 

Living together has opened my eyes to finally believe that, having each other is all that matters. Nothing else, no opinions need to get in the way.

Living together brings you even closer.

Every hug, small or big gesture towards the other – it means everything. You value it all. Leaving the odd sock on the floor really doesn’t matter when it means you’re in each other’s company a whole lot more. Oh and it’s a bonus that the sunset views at night are so nice!

This is everything and more than we’ve ever dreamed of. Does it get any better?

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Another Dream Come True and It’s Only the Beginning

Remember when I said me and Danny are awaiting our next big adventure? As of Thursday 28th February we officially became home owners. We are so proud of ourselves and are so happy that we have achieved something so amazing together.

It’s been a long time coming. Every step of the way we have supported each other and everything is going really well. Along the way I’ve made the Monica joke by saying, “I’m going to be living with a BOY!” But when it comes to it, I’m so excited to live with my best friend. One particular thing was said by my brother, “I get why you have both been so patient.” It was one of the nicest things to hear. He understands how much this means to us and how long we’ve waited for it to happen.

These have been the happiest years of my life and the best is yet to come.

We have combined our tastes, to most of which we share anyway. In all honesty it’s been quite overwhelming for me. I’m still telling myself it’s all ours and nobody can take it away from us. I think the reason why it’s so hard to believe is because most days I wonder how I ever got Danny never mind owning a house with him!

The world works in mysterious ways. And it shows you that things you thought could only ever happen in your dreams really can come true. It’s so much more than I imagined it to be already. The world brought us together for a reason. From just knowing each other as somebody from primary school, to locking eyes in the college corridors, to falling in love. It’s been a huge adventure in itself. Our years together have been everything. But this moment right here shows us that there’s more to discover.

I’ve cried, smiled bursting with happening and jumped all around the house. But most of all I’ve felt the most in love I’ve ever been. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve been here doubting myself but I’m working on it. It helps to have the most kind-hearted, loving person in my life and wherever he is will always be home.

He’s forever my dream come true!

This is just the beginning of our new adventure, one which I am extremely excited to explore. I can only imagine that our love for one another will grow even stronger and we’ll be happy in our home for many many years.

Part of this journey has taught me how important it is to stick to the things that make you happy regardless of what anyone else has to say. Don’t let anyone step in front of anything good that comes your way. Something you’ve worked so hard for should be celebrated.

Stay posted to hear more about our move and places we recommend for furnishings, flooring, blinds etc.

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Don’t Let Other People Control Your Happiness

It’s time to start putting more effort into my own happiness. It wasn’t so long ago that I thought I was better at letting things go.

Crying isn’t always a bad thing. But surely too much of it can’t be healthy? That’s what I’ve discovered over the last few weeks. People can have an impact on your emotions and they don’t even know it. Perhaps their actions aren’t always intentional but at the same time, they’re just not needed.

What am I going to do about it?

I need to like being myself, which I’m not completely so far away from. But if I could just get rid of this one thing that bugs me more than anything, its people’s opinions, their need to get involved an overwhelming amount or the inappropriate comments and gestures. People close to me advise me to ignore them. That’s where I’m weak. I struggle so much to try to put things to the back of my mind. And when I eventually do, something else pops up.

It’s down to me. For things to change, I need to focus on the more meaningful things in life. There are tonnes of things to smile about and to be thankful for. I’m not going to lose sight of myself trying to please others. Sometimes, it’s about speaking up and being brave.

Think about this too…

You can lose followers on social media but you shouldn’t let this impact your value. And you can have people who you drift anyway from that were your ‘mates’ or ‘friends’. Some of these people come into your life for a reason. Some friendships slip away, meanwhile others can stay forever. It doesn’t matter about the number of friends you have. What matters is, who they truly are. The truth is, I think we’re all worth more than we realise. It’s when you discover who you really are that leads you to believing how important your happiness is.

Am I really lonely? My parents do what they can to support me. My big brothers have always got my back. And I have the most amazing human being (Danny) by my side in all that I do. Surrounding yourself with the ones who love you is much better than being round a hundred people who might not believe in you or value who you really are.

A new adventure is right around the corner.

I keep telling myself, “It’s not long now.” Me and Danny are waiting for those two weeks notice or whatever it’ll end up being to notify us when our home will be ready for us. I’ve visioned not only the day but everything leading up to this moment for so long. In fact, we both have. This is our journey. We’re going to travel on it in no other way but ours.

Now, the next time you find yourself becoming so lost in your emotions, fighting against other people’s matters or say, remember what you should really be focusing on. Tell yourself a million times. I should know, I’m constantly sending myself the reminder. If you do feel like you’re falling down again, go to your happy place.

Don’t let other people control your happiness, create your own kind of happiness.

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Asking Myself Why Do I Do These Things?

Since my last post about realising where you’re supposed to be, I felt another reflective post coming along so here goes…

You’re known as the happy, giddy kind of person. But guess what, you are allowed to deflate those emotions from time to time. I guess it’s only normal. Yeah, I’ve felt down on many occasions, never seriously health wise but it still counts. It doesn’t seem to all come from negative experiences but the thought of being the best person I can be.

Wondering, “Should I be like them?”

Unfortunately for me, being that ‘best kind of person’ brings a lot of self-comparison. No matter how many times someone tells you you’re perfect or amazing, you find that something that you wonder if you should be or be better at. It’s a destructive path to follow and can cause so much damage to your mind. But if you do your best to push away all of the negative energy, you’re in control of your happiness in a way you never thought you could be.

I know how bad it is to become so obsessive what ifs, especially when you just found a way to stop being so caught up on those thoughts. And I also think about what someone could’ve had. Seeing pictures thinking someone looks perfect and trying to live up to that. And what’s worse, I keep going back to look. Why?!

One minute I’m confident, the next I’m wondering what else I can find that I don’t like. The thing is, there are so many great things about us all. As many of us that there are on the planet, I still think there’s something that makes each one of us different. And that is exactly what I need to remember – to embrace who I am and everything that’s part of me.

Becoming so lonely in my own thoughts.

Do you think keeping every single thought to yourself is healthy? It isn’t. Sometimes you need to let of steam. Anyone that knows me, knows I’m not shy of a good rant. But I like to think there’s reasoning behind them… or at least a few of them eh? For instance, when people keep going down the same route. You work yourself up so much and then you realise that it’s down to them to deal with it. You can only be there as a shoulder to cry on to try and be the wise person you hope others perceive you to be.

Even the people closest to be but get a surprise if they heard some of the, let’s say “daft” thoughts inside my head. But my boyfriend usually picks up the signs. He’s so used to how I can be different kinds of quiet, a smile that shows I don’t really want to smile, or the want to scream into my pillow. There’s nothing quite like having your own little councillor. I don’t even say that sarcastically. He’s sat through so much my misguided thoughts. Not only has he listened, he’s offered ways to direct me into a happier mind.

Thinking about not being part of a big friendship group…

You have never been the most popular and sometimes you feel like you’re alone. So many people come in and out of your life then you hit a point where you realise this is the part where everyone stays. I’m a big believer in that, who ever is supposed to stay in your life will stay. And the ones who aren’t will leave if you don’t decide to leave before them already.

I can count my friends on one hand. Sounds sad? But it how I prefer it. A smaller circle of friends is so much better for me. And them too are all different in their own ways. That’s what I love about them. Now I say it, I see why I should love myself more. Popularity doesn’t give you the greatest amount of happiness on earth. Creating fun memories that you’ll remember forever is what’ll make you happy.

Throughout all of this, I see how much prettier and ambitious some girls are going to be. I suppose the only person who’s stopping me from being those things is myself. Maybe I need to see the beauty in the little perks I have and remember all of the things I never thought I’d accomplish and have done so.

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When You Know Where You’re Supposed to Be

This post is a message I’m sending to myself and to anyone, to show you that you’re where you’re supposed to be.

All of the talk you’ll hear in your life about what you want to be when you’re older and what your plans are for the future, can leave you with so much uncertainty. But it’s okay to face the unknown with a future that holds several options because at some point there will be a time when you say, “This is where I’m supposed to be.” Even if it’s not forever, it’s right for this moment in your life.

There’s a reason that people come into your life even when they don’t stay.

Part of life is realising that people will come and go. Sometimes it’s for the best when it comes to ‘friendships’ that weren’t such friendships. Other times will bring upset because there will be at least one person who you thought you could share a friendship like no other with. It’s okay though because as I’ve said before, the people who stay and stay true to themselves are the best kind of people for you.

The biggest thing I’ve learnt is that, you can’t be your happiest without facing your fears. You hope for a bright future full of positive things. But where’s the reality in that happening without facing some scary or nerve-racking moments along the way? Having the courage to do the things that scare you can lead to something you never thought you’d have. If you read my post about taking chances you’ll see why.

There’s always been someone and something there that you hadn’t seen before.

Many people will tell you about their dreams coming true and you begin to wonder what your dreams are. You come to think that you don’t really know or that you haven’t really had any at all. That isn’t entirely true. There can be things right in front of your eyes that you never realised you wanted, something deep down that you dreamt of.

I’ve never been someone who needs saving. Nor have I considered myself to be the type of person who needs to have someone to learn what happiness is. Family has taught me a lot about happiness through happy and unhappy moments. You learn how to have strength that can guide you through a lot of things.

You discover that this is where you should be.

One day you’ll look at what you have. You have the truest and best of friends that there is. You have someone who loves you for every piece of your personality that makes you the person who you are. As much as you love your independence, they’re always there to hold your hand. Sad times are put into the distance and you’re happiest memories come to live. These are part of the ones you’ll treasure forever.

One thing remains… no amount of accomplishments or love you’ve given, will stop you from wanting to be something more. It’s fine. Setting goals is an important thing to do. But remember, when you’re already told that you’re everything, maybe you need to accept how somebody else sees you. You won’t always see it yourself even though you should. But it’s something that will probably stay a part of you.

The only reason you should ever look back is to see the person you’ve become today.

This is where you’re supposed to be. Life will always teach you lessons, help you to find yourself and give you the meaning of happiness.

You can wish you would’ve noticed things sooner. But it won’t change anything. The best part of it all is that, you are with the person you’re destined to be with. Every step you take is an adventure together. You work through things as a team. He’s the biggest love you’ll ever have. Don’t let them go because this is where you’re supposed to be.