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Another Dream Come True and It’s Only the Beginning

Remember when I said me and Danny are awaiting our next big adventure? As of Thursday 28th February we officially became home owners. We are so proud of ourselves and are so happy that we have achieved something so amazing together.

It’s been a long time coming. Every step of the way we have supported each other and everything is going really well. Along the way I’ve made the Monica joke by saying, “I’m going to be living with a BOY!” But when it comes to it, I’m so excited to live with my best friend. One particular thing was said by my brother, “I get why you have both been so patient.” It was one of the nicest things to hear. He understands how much this means to us and how long we’ve waited for it to happen.

These have been the happiest years of my life and the best is yet to come.

We have combined our tastes, to most of which we share anyway. In all honesty it’s been quite overwhelming for me. I’m still telling myself it’s all ours and nobody can take it away from us. I think the reason why it’s so hard to believe is because most days I wonder how I ever got Danny never mind owning a house with him!

The world works in mysterious ways. And it shows you that things you thought could only ever happen in your dreams really can come true. It’s so much more than I imagined it to be already. The world brought us together for a reason. From just knowing each other as somebody from primary school, to locking eyes in the college corridors, to falling in love. It’s been a huge adventure in itself. Our years together have been everything. But this moment right here shows us that there’s more to discover.

I’ve cried, smiled bursting with happening and jumped all around the house. But most of all I’ve felt the most in love I’ve ever been. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve been here doubting myself but I’m working on it. It helps to have the most kind-hearted, loving person in my life and wherever he is will always be home.

He’s forever my dream come true!

This is just the beginning of our new adventure, one which I am extremely excited to explore. I can only imagine that our love for one another will grow even stronger and we’ll be happy in our home for many many years.

Part of this journey has taught me how important it is to stick to the things that make you happy regardless of what anyone else has to say. Don’t let anyone step in front of anything good that comes your way. Something you’ve worked so hard for should be celebrated.

Stay posted to hear more about our move and places we recommend for furnishings, flooring, blinds etc.

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Don’t Let Other People Control Your Happiness

It’s time to start putting more effort into my own happiness. It wasn’t so long ago that I thought I was better at letting things go.

Crying isn’t always a bad thing. But surely too much of it can’t be healthy? That’s what I’ve discovered over the last few weeks. People can have an impact on your emotions and they don’t even know it. Perhaps their actions aren’t always intentional but at the same time, they’re just not needed.

What am I going to do about it?

I need to like being myself, which I’m not completely so far away from. But if I could just get rid of this one thing that bugs me more than anything, its people’s opinions, their need to get involved an overwhelming amount or the inappropriate comments and gestures. People close to me advise me to ignore them. That’s where I’m weak. I struggle so much to try to put things to the back of my mind. And when I eventually do, something else pops up.

It’s down to me. For things to change, I need to focus on the more meaningful things in life. There are tonnes of things to smile about and to be thankful for. I’m not going to lose sight of myself trying to please others. Sometimes, it’s about speaking up and being brave.

Think about this too…

You can lose followers on social media but you shouldn’t let this impact your value. And you can have people who you drift anyway from that were your ‘mates’ or ‘friends’. Some of these people come into your life for a reason. Some friendships slip away, meanwhile others can stay forever. It doesn’t matter about the number of friends you have. What matters is, who they truly are. The truth is, I think we’re all worth more than we realise. It’s when you discover who you really are that leads you to believing how important your happiness is.

Am I really lonely? My parents do what they can to support me. My big brothers have always got my back. And I have the most amazing human being (Danny) by my side in all that I do. Surrounding yourself with the ones who love you is much better than being round a hundred people who might not believe in you or value who you really are.

A new adventure is right around the corner.

I keep telling myself, “It’s not long now.” Me and Danny are waiting for those two weeks notice or whatever it’ll end up being to notify us when our home will be ready for us. I’ve visioned not only the day but everything leading up to this moment for so long. In fact, we both have. This is our journey. We’re going to travel on it in no other way but ours.

Now, the next time you find yourself becoming so lost in your emotions, fighting against other people’s matters or say, remember what you should really be focusing on. Tell yourself a million times. I should know, I’m constantly sending myself the reminder. If you do feel like you’re falling down again, go to your happy place.

Don’t let other people control your happiness, create your own kind of happiness.

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Asking Myself Why Do I Do These Things?

Since my last post about realising where you’re supposed to be, I felt another reflective post coming along so here goes…

You’re known as the happy, giddy kind of person. But guess what, you are allowed to deflate those emotions from time to time. I guess it’s only normal. Yeah, I’ve felt down on many occasions, never seriously health wise but it still counts. It doesn’t seem to all come from negative experiences but the thought of being the best person I can be.

Wondering, “Should I be like them?”

Unfortunately for me, being that ‘best kind of person’ brings a lot of self-comparison. No matter how many times someone tells you you’re perfect or amazing, you find that something that you wonder if you should be or be better at. It’s a destructive path to follow and can cause so much damage to your mind. But if you do your best to push away all of the negative energy, you’re in control of your happiness in a way you never thought you could be.

I know how bad it is to become so obsessive what ifs, especially when you just found a way to stop being so caught up on those thoughts. And I also think about what someone could’ve had. Seeing pictures thinking someone looks perfect and trying to live up to that. And what’s worse, I keep going back to look. Why?!

One minute I’m confident, the next I’m wondering what else I can find that I don’t like. The thing is, there are so many great things about us all. As many of us that there are on the planet, I still think there’s something that makes each one of us different. And that is exactly what I need to remember – to embrace who I am and everything that’s part of me.

Becoming so lonely in my own thoughts.

Do you think keeping every single thought to yourself is healthy? It isn’t. Sometimes you need to let of steam. Anyone that knows me, knows I’m not shy of a good rant. But I like to think there’s reasoning behind them… or at least a few of them eh? For instance, when people keep going down the same route. You work yourself up so much and then you realise that it’s down to them to deal with it. You can only be there as a shoulder to cry on to try and be the wise person you hope others perceive you to be.

Even the people closest to be but get a surprise if they heard some of the, let’s say “daft” thoughts inside my head. But my boyfriend usually picks up the signs. He’s so used to how I can be different kinds of quiet, a smile that shows I don’t really want to smile, or the want to scream into my pillow. There’s nothing quite like having your own little councillor. I don’t even say that sarcastically. He’s sat through so much my misguided thoughts. Not only has he listened, he’s offered ways to direct me into a happier mind.

Thinking about not being part of a big friendship group…

You have never been the most popular and sometimes you feel like you’re alone. So many people come in and out of your life then you hit a point where you realise this is the part where everyone stays. I’m a big believer in that, who ever is supposed to stay in your life will stay. And the ones who aren’t will leave if you don’t decide to leave before them already.

I can count my friends on one hand. Sounds sad? But it how I prefer it. A smaller circle of friends is so much better for me. And them too are all different in their own ways. That’s what I love about them. Now I say it, I see why I should love myself more. Popularity doesn’t give you the greatest amount of happiness on earth. Creating fun memories that you’ll remember forever is what’ll make you happy.

Throughout all of this, I see how much prettier and ambitious some girls are going to be. I suppose the only person who’s stopping me from being those things is myself. Maybe I need to see the beauty in the little perks I have and remember all of the things I never thought I’d accomplish and have done so.

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When You Know Where You’re Supposed to Be

This post is a message I’m sending to myself and to anyone, to show you that you’re where you’re supposed to be.

All of the talk you’ll hear in your life about what you want to be when you’re older and what your plans are for the future, can leave you with so much uncertainty. But it’s okay to face the unknown with a future that holds several options because at some point there will be a time when you say, “This is where I’m supposed to be.” Even if it’s not forever, it’s right for this moment in your life.

There’s a reason that people come into your life even when they don’t stay.

Part of life is realising that people will come and go. Sometimes it’s for the best when it comes to ‘friendships’ that weren’t such friendships. Other times will bring upset because there will be at least one person who you thought you could share a friendship like no other with. It’s okay though because as I’ve said before, the people who stay and stay true to themselves are the best kind of people for you.

The biggest thing I’ve learnt is that, you can’t be your happiest without facing your fears. You hope for a bright future full of positive things. But where’s the reality in that happening without facing some scary or nerve-racking moments along the way? Having the courage to do the things that scare you can lead to something you never thought you’d have. If you read my post about taking chances you’ll see why.

There’s always been someone and something there that you hadn’t seen before.

Many people will tell you about their dreams coming true and you begin to wonder what your dreams are. You come to think that you don’t really know or that you haven’t really had any at all. That isn’t entirely true. There can be things right in front of your eyes that you never realised you wanted, something deep down that you dreamt of.

I’ve never been someone who needs saving. Nor have I considered myself to be the type of person who needs to have someone to learn what happiness is. Family has taught me a lot about happiness through happy and unhappy moments. You learn how to have strength that can guide you through a lot of things.

You discover that this is where you should be.

One day you’ll look at what you have. You have the truest and best of friends that there is. You have someone who loves you for every piece of your personality that makes you the person who you are. As much as you love your independence, they’re always there to hold your hand. Sad times are put into the distance and you’re happiest memories come to live. These are part of the ones you’ll treasure forever.

One thing remains… no amount of accomplishments or love you’ve given, will stop you from wanting to be something more. It’s fine. Setting goals is an important thing to do. But remember, when you’re already told that you’re everything, maybe you need to accept how somebody else sees you. You won’t always see it yourself even though you should. But it’s something that will probably stay a part of you.

The only reason you should ever look back is to see the person you’ve become today.

This is where you’re supposed to be. Life will always teach you lessons, help you to find yourself and give you the meaning of happiness.

You can wish you would’ve noticed things sooner. But it won’t change anything. The best part of it all is that, you are with the person you’re destined to be with. Every step you take is an adventure together. You work through things as a team. He’s the biggest love you’ll ever have. Don’t let them go because this is where you’re supposed to be.

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Taking Chances Can Lead to the Best Adventures

Do you ever look back to see how much you’ve grown? One minute you’re at the point where you don’t really look into your future. Well, the future is unknown but it’s nice to think what could be and where you could go. How often do you think about taking chances?

In the past there were occasions when I probably spent too much time trying to be the person I thought others wanted me to be. Or trying to be a kind of person that ‘fits in with the crowd’. But it didn’t take me long to realise that the best person you can be is yourself. There’s billions of us on earth so why would we want to be like everyone else?

Stop to think, “I’m going to be myself and I’m going to do my best.”

I can be a quiet person but it doesn’t mean to say that I’m not bubbly and fun because I also have that side too. Once someone really knows me or clicks with me there’s a level of weirdness and randomness you’ll see from me and isn’t think, “Ah that’s just Tasha being Tasha.”

When I was a teenager I didn’t really think too much into the future. For me, it was all about trying to succeed at school, college and university. And to hopefully end up in a job I enjoy. Never did I think I’d of found a love so strong, a man I can call my best friend, and that we would be in the process of buying our new home together. Without the determination to get to where I am today, that wouldn’t have been possible.

Life is about taking chances. I said yes to being with Danny (after many attempts of him asking me), an organisation took a chance saying yes to employing me, and together me and Danny have said yes to facing any challenges that have come our way.

Taking chances can be scary but it can be so exciting too.

Just when you feel so complete, it’s incredible to think that even more amazing things can happen. They don’t come without challenges along the way, but that’s part of taking chances. Your accepting the possibilities that other things could happen or things might not go to plan, but hoping for the best.

I’m so lucky to be where I am today with Danny. I can’t wait to take more chances and see where the world takes us.

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Looking Towards the Future Is Such an Exciting Thing

Earlier me and Danny were talking about how we can wish the week away wishing it was Friday as soon as Monday arrives. We all wish for a longer weekend, right? It’s not so good to wish your life away but of course, it’s always nice to have things to look forward to.

We’re using small milestones to reach our goal of getting the house. The excitement is killing us inside but we want to wait until we’re further into the process so we know for sure that, without a doubt, it’s really happening.

While I’m on a positive trade of thought towards the future, there are a few things that have been on my mind recently.

I’m in one of the happiest places I’ve ever been.

You know when you’re sat there thinking “I’m really happy where I am right now?” Well, that’s how it is at the moment. And it’s only going to get better. If we both keep working hard and stay motivated, the journey we’re sharing is going to become even more incredible.

The worrier I used to be doesn’t exist as half as much as it used to. Being yourself is the best way forward and having someone who loves every inch you inside and out, is my version of perfect. The reality is, he goes above and beyond everything I’ve ever dreamt of.

Having patience really does help you.

Sometimes you want things to happen right here and now. But looking towards the future is so much better, as you can see how worthwhile it really is. If everything happened exactly when you wanted it to, surely you’d run out of things to look forward to? I think it leads to more excitement when you’re closer to such an important event in your life.

Patience helps you to be healthier mentally. You’re not stressing about what’s to come. You simply live in the moment and know that time will take its course. Good things are coming, you have to keep believing that they will.

There’s no one else on earth I want to share my future with.

I couldn’t be more sure about this one. He’s the one person I want to experience the same old things with and all of the new. Danny has taken me on the biggest journey of my life and it’s only going to get more amazing. How does he put up with my weird, random antics? We’re a right pair! Just the other day we were both in stitches in public and laughing together is one of my favourite things to do.

Count your lucky stars when you have someone and something to hold onto forever. Use each experience to go from strength to strength. Together, you can get everywhere you want to go regardless of what anybody else thinks.

What have you been feeling excited about recently as you’re looking towards the future?