The Winter Tag

I haven’t took part in Blogmas so here’s my Christmassy themed blog post! The one and only Lynette from Life With Lynette tagged me in ‘The Winter Tag’ where bloggers choose 8 bloggers to answer some Christmas related questions. Well, I can’t say no to participating in this can I? Lynette always tags me blog related things. She really is so lovely.

Here we go…

What is your favourite holiday tradition?

Sometimes I wonder if I have a Christmas tradition… then I think surely we all have at least one? Christmas for me has always been about spending the day with family, seeing everyone have a good time with a smile on their face. A tradition that mum seems to keep going is getting me to wrap all of the Christmas she’s bought. Just the other day she mentioned that she’s going to pay for my taxi fare once I move out next year. We’ll see about that one mum!

I’m so excited for me and Danny to make traditions of our own home.

What is your favourite winter scent?

Hmmmm… many people seem to love different winter scented candles such as ginger or cinnamon. I don’t even have any candles around the house at mum and dad’s. I’m not too sure why. Does the smell of mum’s Christmas dinner as it’s cooking count as a good enough answer to this question? I hope so because it’s at the top of the list for me. You can probably tell that I love my food.

What is your favourite winter go-to fashioned trend?

As a little girl I think mum used to put me in cute little dresses. As I got older I think I stuck to jeans and a nice knitted winter top or jumper. Over the past few years I’ve gone for a dress, or skirt with a long sleeved top, tights and boots. This year’s skirt and top are both from New Look.

What is your all-time favourite holiday movie?

I have 2 favourite Christmas films. The first one is The Snowman (original version from 1982). It’s just under 30 minutes long but it always reminds me of my childhood. I watched it every year with my grandad, so whenever I see something snowman related, it makes me feel so happy.

My other all-time favourite is Miracle on 34th Street, again the original from 1947). Me and mum have seen different versions of the film but the original has always been our favourite. Whenever we notice that it’s on TV, we’re like “Ahhh look what’s on. It’s nearly Christmas!”

What’s your favourite all-time holiday tune?

Easy – Fairytale of New York by The Pogues. It isn’t even the jolliest of songs but it’s definitely the kind where it gets you in the mood to sing along. I Wish It Could Be Christmas Everyday is another really good Christmas song to get you into the festive spirit. Everyone should be happy on Christmas Day, as well as every other day of the year. This songs gives you extra bit of Christmas spirit. My favourite Christmas song when I was little was Jingle Bells.

Do you prefer to travel or stay at home during the holidays?

I’ve always stayed at home during Christmas or eaten out at a restaurant not too far away from where we live. I hope one day I’ll be able to experience Christmas or the New Year somewhere other than home. I’ve always stayed with family but like I mentioned above, I can’t wait to make new Christmas memories with Danny.

Next year will be mine and Danny’s first Christmas in our home together. But maybe in the future, we’ll be able to go to New York because I’ve always wanted to go back and remember how magical it is in winter. Another place could be San Fransisco as that’s one of Danny’s dream places to go.

What’s your favourite winter activity?

Activity? In the winter? I don’t like the cold so erm… getting home to have a nice hot chocolate? I do love being all cosy when it’s chilly and windy outside. A bit like today really. But at the same time I like being all snug whenever me and Danny travel anywhere in the winter.

If you read about our latest trip to Amsterdam you’ll have seen that I was all wrapped up. I’m always cold as it is so many layers were needed. Having a walking radiator (Danny) with me always helps!

Do you love or hate the snow?

If you would’ve asked me this question when I was a little girl, I would’ve said love. There was something so exciting about waking up and seeing that the ground was covered in pure white snow. I’d play outside with my friends with no fear of the cold whatsoever.

But you’re asking me now so I’d have to say hate. Well hate might be a bit too strong of a word. I’m just not a fan of the slush, sleet, ice etc. And it’s me after all, I go flying in the wind. So you can imagine what I’m like when the snow turns to ice. This is why I was so surprised I managed to ice skate pretty well in Amsterdam since I hadn’t from the age of 8 years old!

What is one item on your wish list this year?

There’s nothing on my Christmas list this year. Anyone that knows me will know that I always love snuggly things like pyjamas though. I honestly am just so looking forward to moving in with Danny next year so most people are getting us little bits to help us out. Bring on 2019, it’s going to be amazing!

What is your favourite holiday treat?

Well, all the food. Seriously, all of it. But I do a bit (or a lot of) shortbread. Yesterday, mum came into the living room and said, “Look what I bought today.” It was a huge box of shortbread. I was in my element. Oh and every year there just has to be multiple tubs of chocolates. What’s Christmas without all of the chocolate?!

I choose the following bloggers for The Winter Tag:

Samantha at Believe In A Miracle
Megan at Megan Elizabeth Lifestyle
Rachel at Little World of Rachel
Nadia at Miel and Mint
Carly at Carly Bloggs
Shannon at Shanylou
Niamh at Grab A Cuppa
Gemma at But Gemma Darling

I understand that a lot of you will be busy at the moment so don’t worry if you don’t take part. I hope you all have the best Christmas and New Year!

Asking Myself Why Do I Do These Things?

Since my last post about realising where you’re supposed to be, I felt another reflective post coming along so here goes…

You’re known as the happy, giddy kind of person. But guess what, you are allowed to deflate those emotions from time to time. I guess it’s only normal. Yeah, I’ve felt down on many occasions, never seriously health wise but it still counts. It doesn’t seem to all come from negative experiences but the thought of being the best person I can be.

Wondering if I should be like them

Unfortunately for me, being that ‘best kind of person’ brings a lot of self-comparison. No matter how many times someone tells you you’re perfect or amazing, you find that something that you wonder if you should be or be better at. It’s a destructive path to follow and can cause so much damage to your mind. But if you do your best to push away all of the negative energy, you’re in control of your happiness in a way you never thought you could be.

I know how bad it is to become so obsessive what ifs, especially when you just found a way to stop being so caught up on those thoughts. And I also think about what someone could’ve had. Seeing pictures thinking someone looks perfect and trying to live up to that. And what’s worse, I keep going back to look. Why?!

One minute I’m confident, the next I’m wondering what else I can find that I don’t like. The thing is, there are so many great things about us all. As many of us that there are on the planet, I still think there’s something that makes each one of us different. And that is exactly what I need to remember – to embrace who I am and everything that’s part of me.

Becoming so lonely in my own thoughts

Do you think keeping every single thought to yourself is healthy? It isn’t. Sometimes you need to let of steam. Anyone that knows me, knows I’m not shy of a good rant. But I like to think there’s reasoning behind them… or at least a few of them eh? For instance, when people keep going down the same route. You work yourself up so much and then you realise that it’s down to them to deal with it. You can only be there as a shoulder to cry on to try and be the wise person you hope others perceive you to be.

Even the people closest to be but get a surprise if they heard some of the, let’s say “daft” thoughts inside my head. But my boyfriend usually picks up the signs. He’s so used to how I can be different kinds of quiet, a smile that shows I don’t really want to smile, or the want to scream into my pillow. There’s nothing quite like having your own little councillor. I don’t even say that sarcastically. He’s sat through so much my misguided thoughts. Not only has he listened, he’s offered ways to direct me into a happier mind.

Thinking about not being part of a big friendship group

You have never been the most popular and sometimes you feel like you’re alone. So many people come in and out of your life then you hit a point where you realise this is the part where everyone stays. I’m a big believer in that, who ever is supposed to stay in your life will stay. And the ones who aren’t will leave if you don’t decide to leave before them already.

I can count my friends on one hand. Sounds sad? But it how I prefer it. A smaller circle of friends is so much better for me. And them too are all different in their own ways. That’s what I love about them. Now I say it, I see why I should love myself more. Popularity doesn’t give you the greatest amount of happiness on earth. Creating fun memories that you’ll remember forever is what does.

Throughout all of this, I see how much prettier and ambitious some girls are going to be. I suppose the only person who’s stopping me from being those things is myself. Maybe I need to see the beauty in the little perks I have and remember all of the things I never thought I’d accomplish and have done so.

When You Know Where You’re Supposed to Be

This post is a message I’m sending to myself and to anyone, to show you that you’re where you’re supposed to be.

All of the talk you’ll hear in your life about what you want to be when you’re older and what your plans are for the future, can leave you with so much uncertainty. But it’s okay to face the unknown with a future that holds several options because at some point there will be a time when you say, “This is where I’m supposed to be.” Even if it’s not forever, it’s right for this moment in your life.

There’s a reason that people come into your life even they don’t stay

Part of life is realising that people will come and go. Sometimes it’s for the best when it comes to ‘friendships’ that weren’t such friendships. Other times will bring upset because there will be at least one person who you thought you could share a friendship like no other with. It’s okay though because as I’ve said before, the people who stay and stay true to themselves are the best kind of people for you.

The biggest thing I’ve learnt is that, you can’t be your happiest without facing your fears. You hope for a bright future full of positive things. But where’s the reality in that happening without facing some scary or nerve-racking moments along the way? Having the courage to do the things that scare you can lead to something you never thought you’d have. If you read my post about taking chances you’ll see why.

There’s always been someone and something there that you hadn’t seen before

Many people will tell you about their dreams coming true and you begin to wonder what your dreams are. You come to think that you don’t really know or that you haven’t really had any at all. That isn’t entirely true. There can be things right in front of your eyes that you never realised you wanted, something deep down that you dreamt of.

I’ve never been someone who needs saving. Nor have I considered myself to be the type of person who needs to have someone to learn what happiness is. Family has taught me a lot about happiness through happy and unhappy moments. You learn how to have strength that can guide you through a lot of things.

You discover that this is where you should be

One day you’ll look at what you have. You have the truest and best of friends that there is. You have someone who loves you for every piece of your personality that makes you the person who you are. As much as you love your independence, they’re always there to hold your hand. Sad times are put into the distance and you’re happiest memories come to live. These are part of the ones you’ll treasure forever.

One thing remains… no amount of accomplishments or love you’ve given, will stop you from wanting to be something more. It’s fine. Setting goals is an important thing to do. But remember, when you’re already told that you’re everything, maybe you need to accept how somebody else sees you. You won’t always see it yourself even though you should. But it’s something that will probably stay a part of you.

The only reason you should ever look back is to see the person you’ve become today

This is where you’re supposed to be. Life will always teach you lessons, help you to find yourself and give you the meaning of happiness.

You can wish you would’ve noticed things sooner. But it won’t change anything. The best part of it all is that, you are with the person you’re destined to be with. Every step you take is an adventure together. You work through things as a team. He’s the biggest love you’ll ever have. Don’t let them go because this is where you’re supposed to be.

Taking Chances Can Lead to the Best Adventures

Do you ever look back to see how much you’ve grown? One minute you’re at the point where you don’t really look into your future. Well, the future is unknown but it’s nice to think what could be and where you could go. How often do you think about taking chances?

In the past there were occasions when I probably spent too much time trying to be the person I thought others wanted me to be. Or trying to be a kind of person that ‘fits in with the crowd’. But it didn’t take me long to realise that the best person you can be is yourself. There’s billions of us on earth so why would we want to be like everyone else?

Stop to think, “I’m going to be myself and I’m going to do my best.”

I can be a quiet person but it doesn’t mean to say that I’m not bubbly and fun because I also have that side too. Once someone really knows me or clicks with me there’s a level of weirdness and randomness you’ll see from me and isn’t think, “Ah that’s just Tasha being Tasha.”

When I was a teenager I didn’t really think too much into the future. For me, it was all about trying to succeed at school, college and university. And to hopefully end up in a job I enjoy. Never did I think I’d of found a love so strong, a man I can call my best friend, and that we would be in the process of buying our new home together. Without the determination to get to where I am today, that wouldn’t have been possible.

Life is about taking chances. I said yes to being with Danny (after many attempts of him asking me), an organisation took a chance saying yes to employing me, and together me and Danny have said yes to facing any challenges that have come our way.

Taking chances can be scary but it can be so exciting too

Just when you feel so complete, it’s incredible to think that even more amazing things can happen. They don’t come without challenges along the way, but that’s part of taking chances. Your accepting the possibilities that other things could happen or things might not go to plan, but hoping for the best.

I’m so lucky to be where I am today with Danny. I can’t wait to take more chances and see where the world takes us.

Looking Towards the Future Is Such an Exciting Thing

October will soon be coming to be an end. Once Halloween is over, Bonfire Night will soon be here and then before you know it, it’ll be Christmas. With preparations for the house kicking in, looking towards the future has never been so exciting.

Earlier me and Danny were talking about how we can wish the week away wishing it was Friday as soon as Monday arrives. We all wish for a longer weekend, right? It’s not so good to wish your life away but of course, it’s always nice to have things to look forward to.

We’re using small milestones to reach our goal of getting the house. The excitement is killing us inside but we want to wait until we’re further into the process so we know for sure that, without a doubt, it’s really happening.

While I’m on a positive trade of thought towards the future, there are a few things that have been on my mind recently.

I’m in one of the happiest places I’ve ever been

You know when you’re sat there thinking “I’m really happy where I am right now?” Well, that’s how it is at the moment. And it’s only going to get better. If we both keep working hard and stay motivated, the journey we’re sharing is going to become even more incredible.

The worrier I used to be doesn’t exist as half as much as it used to. Being yourself is the best way forward and having someone who loves every inch you inside and out, is my version of perfect. The reality is, he goes above and beyond everything I’ve ever dreamt of.

Having patience really does help

Sometimes you want things to happen right here and now. But looking towards the future is so much better, as you can see how worthwhile it really is. If everything happened exactly when you wanted it to, surely you’d run out of things to look forward to? I think it leads to more excitement when you’re closer to such an important event in your life.

Patience helps you to be healthier mentally. You’re not stressing about what’s to come. You simply live in the moment and know that time will take its course. Good things are coming, you have to keep believing that they will.

There’s no one else on earth I’d want to share my future with

I couldn’t be more sure about this one. He’s the one person I want to experience the same old things with and all of the new. Danny has taken me on the biggest journey of my life and it’s only going to get more amazing. How does he put up with my weird, random antics? We’re a right pair! Just the other day we were both in stitches in public and laughing together is one of my favourite things to do.

Count your lucky stars when you have someone and something to hold onto forever. Use each experience to go from strength to strength. Together, you can get everywhere you want to go regardless of what anybody else thinks.

What have you been feeling excited about recently as you’re looking towards the future?

The Moment You Start to Feel Like You Again

Do you have a period in your life where you wish you could feel like you again? Of course you do. That’s because we all do. It’s called being human. There are times where we feel like we might have stopped making an effort, or making the effort is what drains you.

Remember to not lose sight of the things that make you happy and make you feel your best.

How amazing is the feeling when you start to feel like you again?

Last weekend was the first time I’ve had my hair done in three months. I went for the full pamper – highlights, cut, blow dry and treatment. And wow I feel as if I look like me again! I couldn’t stop feeling my hair to feel how much healthier it was. I didn’t care if no one noticed because I felt amazing!

Maybe I’ll get round to painting my nails some time soon as I keep saying I will…

Back to the things I love

Today is the first time in two weeks that I’ve posted on Instagram. I usually have stock of photos ready to upload multiple times in the week. But I finally got around to editing a few this evening. And with Amsterdam coming up at the end of next month, there’s bound be loads more new travel shots coming your way.

And here I am writing a blog post. You hear of many people saying that they’re “neglecting” their blog. But in my eyes, I post when I have the right motivation to do so. I don’t believe the whole “bad blogger” thing.

Exciting things are happening

Very serious times now. No more nipping in that shop to see what cute top is on offer. It’s all about keeping extra money aside for our future. Me and Danny are finally hitting an exciting step in our lives. There are months to go but we can’t wait to make a house our home if all goes to plan. As Danny said the other night as he ran and kissed me good night, “Tasha… it’s happening!”

Anyone who knows me understands how long I’ve waited for it all the start happening. I’ve been buying kitchen utensils, bathroom furnishings, and new bedding for the past two years. Yeah we’ll see different sides to each other considering we’ll be living together but I don’t doubt for one minute that we’ll ever grow to hate each other.

Being happy in the moment and looking forwards the future

I’ve learnt to ignore anyone’s comments that are nothing but positive. The future will be amazing because we’re going to make it amazing, having each other, just as we always have. We have worked so hard to head in this direction stepping closer to something we’ve dreamt of for years. No one is going to change that.

Is there anything that’s happened recently to make you feel like you again? Have you got any exciting news? Tell me in the comments below.