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Living in a Positive World Starts with You

Living in a positive world can seem far from easy when there are so many negative happening. Sure, but have you ever considered all of the wonderful things that there are to live? Whenever I think something goes wrong, I tell myself that “It could be worse” or that “There are worse things going on in the world.” It’s important to steer towards positive thinking about the future. The happiness in your life starts with you.

A positive mindset, positive friendships and relationships and feeling positive about yourself are three key things to living in a positive world.

Among the high level of pressure in today’s society to achieve things by a certain age to be successful or look a certain way to be classed as attractive is ridiculous. Be whoever the hell you want to be and don’t let anybody else’s appearance determine how attractive you are. There’s beauty in everyone and behind each and every human being are backgrounds that no one could have a clue about. That’s why I think we should grow into our own person rather than what we have seen.

Start with loving yourself

You can’t make people love you so why not love yourself? One of my weaknesses is self-criticism. Whether it be my face, my figure, my hair, skin (the list goes on) there’s always something to pick out. And if it’s not physical it’s wishing I could do better. More recently though, I’ve been recognising my potential. I’ve always believed in taking footsteps on my own journey rather than a vision of somebody else’s. Making my own choices has built the foundation of my happiness today.

Don’t be like everybody else

What’s the fun in being the same as everybody else? I’m probably one of the weirdest and random people you will ever meet. I know it and so do the closest people around me. I’m quiet sometimes but I’m also the giddiest at other times. Following the crowd isn’t my kind of thing. I’m happy to say that I’ve got a handful of close friends and not a single one of them has ever asked me to be different. Every single one of my friends have something different about them that I love. Express those personality traits regardless of what anyone has to say. Being your natural self is the best and you’ll be much happier.

Always believe that something amazing can happen

Going back 5-10 years ago, do you think I imagined to be where I am today? Nope. Having ambition, working incredibly hard and finding who are along the way has helped. I entered this world 3 months early so to my parents, I’ve probably always done the unexpected. I never thought I’d have a man in life who could love me just as much as a father love his daughter or a grandad loves his granddaughter. Being a homeowner by the age of 24 was never a plan but it happened at the right time and with the right person. Heading into a media/writing skilled carer was something that I thought was never going to happen but it did.

Never back down when life gives you heartbreak, challenges, or a sense of disbelief. Always be yourself and never let anyone dull your sparkle.

Looking Towards the Future Is Such an Exciting Thing

October will soon be coming to be an end. Once Halloween is over, Bonfire Night will soon be here and then before you know it, it’ll be Christmas. With preparations for the house kicking in, looking towards the future has never been so exciting.

Earlier me and Danny were talking about how we can wish the week away wishing it was Friday as soon as Monday arrives. We all wish for a longer weekend, right? It’s not so good to wish your life away but of course, it’s always nice to have things to look forward to.

We’re using small milestones to reach our goal of getting the house. The excitement is killing us inside but we want to wait until we’re further into the process so we know for sure that, without a doubt, it’s really happening.

While I’m on a positive trade of thought towards the future, there are a few things that have been on my mind recently.

I’m in one of the happiest places I’ve ever been

You know when you’re sat there thinking “I’m really happy where I am right now?” Well, that’s how it is at the moment. And it’s only going to get better. If we both keep working hard and stay motivated, the journey we’re sharing is going to become even more incredible.

The worrier I used to be doesn’t exist as half as much as it used to. Being yourself is the best way forward and having someone who loves every inch you inside and out, is my version of perfect. The reality is, he goes above and beyond everything I’ve ever dreamt of.

Having patience really does help

Sometimes you want things to happen right here and now. But looking towards the future is so much better, as you can see how worthwhile it really is. If everything happened exactly when you wanted it to, surely you’d run out of things to look forward to? I think it leads to more excitement when you’re closer to such an important event in your life.

Patience helps you to be healthier mentally. You’re not stressing about what’s to come. You simply live in the moment and know that time will take its course. Good things are coming, you have to keep believing that they will.

There’s no one else on earth I’d want to share my future with

I couldn’t be more sure about this one. He’s the one person I want to experience the same old things with and all of the new. Danny has taken me on the biggest journey of my life and it’s only going to get more amazing. How does he put up with my weird, random antics? We’re a right pair! Just the other day we were both in stitches in public and laughing together is one of my favourite things to do.

Count your lucky stars when you have someone and something to hold onto forever. Use each experience to go from strength to strength. Together, you can get everywhere you want to go regardless of what anybody else thinks.

What have you been feeling excited about recently as you’re looking towards the future?

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Would You Rather Meet Someone’s Expectations Or Go Beyond Them?

Do you ever feel like you need to meet someone’s expectations? It’s crazy how we live in a world like this. Some people are brought up having to achieve certain grades and milestones to make their parents proud.

My childhood was always about doing my best and if great results followed that was just a bonus. The main thing my parents wanted was for me to play, make friends, and learn new things in the process. But there have still been times where I feel like I disappointed them. It’s something we go through even as we get older.

The growing up stage

Growing up you learn that some friendships are forever and some drift away. And that’s okay. You’re still continuing to learn… you always are no matter no age. Facing the fear of not meeting someone’s expectations will worry you. Why? Because you’re afraid they’ll think less of you, or take away your feeling of being ‘good enough’.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve punished myself for not doing as well in something as I thought I would. Sometimes it’s about making more effort and a whole lot of hard work. But not always. At times, you’ve done all you can and it is what it is. As much of a challenge as it’s been, choosing to go on my own path had led me to the best things in life.

The 3 things that have brought out the best happiness in me are:

Sticking to my passion for media and writing throughout primary school (writing stories), high school (beginning a media studies qualification) and continuing with that in college and university. It led me to the job I’m in today which I wouldn’t have got with sticking to my dreams and working hard.

Doing things to remember the ones I’ve loved and lost. I’m glad that grandad has his name with granny on their plot. Having his name on there is so important to me. Completing the Great Manchester Run in memory of him was one of the most emotional rollercoasters. And it was one of my biggest accomplishments. I’ve also created my fundraising own event to raise awareness of premature babies, still births, and baby loss for Tommy’s. You might have seen my mum’s story about her experience of a still birth.

Being in a long-term relationship with my boyfriendwho’s so much more than a ‘boyfriend’ – he’s my best friend. Everything I see in my future is with him. He gets frustrated with some of my insecurities and worries because he wishes I’d see what he does. Having someone who sees nothing but the best in you regardless of your flaws releases an amazing feeling.

It goes to show that you can go beyond your own expectations of yourself

Be proud of yourself. There’s nothing wrong with taking pride in what you do. I’ve probably told you several times that life is living. Make a list of all the things you’ve ever wanted to do and plan how/when you can do them. If being happy means you need to remove yourself from environments that drown you in misery then leave. Ask for help if you’re struggling. Surround yourself with positive people and a positive mind will follow.

The key message is, everyone struggles in some way or another. Have more faith in yourself and you’ll see that more things seem possible rather than impossible.

So what do you prefer to do – meet someone’s expectations or choose your own goals and choices? I’d love to know what you think. Comment below or tell me via Tasha Lifestyle on Twitter.

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The Power of Strengths and Weaknesses

Today I’ve been thinking about what to write. What do I want to share that’s new, something I haven’t done before? That’s when strengths and weaknesses come into my mind. We all have them so it’s a topic for anyone to discuss about how they feel about theirs. Sometimes, no matter how hard you want to try to get rid of a weakness, it isn’t always possible. But you can help yourself by working on ways to overcome particular situations or doing something less.

We all have a weak side

Take me for instance, if you didn’t know already, I’ve always been a massive worrier. That’s my biggest weakness. I’ve realised more than ever this year though just how pointless it can be to worry about things. You think you’re right to at the time then you realise it isn’t relevant or you didn’t have anything to worry about from the start.

Like I’ve said before, it can help to have someone there to show you how strong you can be.

He has given me the most amazing adventure and it’s only been a small part of the rest of our lives together. No matter how many insecurities I’ve had, no matter what weaknesses or downfalls I have, he’s there.

Other times, it’s up to you to decide how strong you can really be. Think of all of the great things you’ve accomplished. Even if it hasn’t been your day, month, or year, there’s got to be something. Earlier this year I felt like giving up. Facing unemployment or unhappiness in the workplace takes a serious toll on so many things in your life that others don’t always realise. However, once I began to believe in myself and that the right job for me would come along, it’s one of the biggest strengths I’ve ever had.

And then we have our strong side to show

March was when it all began to crumble. I began to feel worthless but ever since May this year something changed me as a person and my attitude to everything. Seven months later, I can say that I feel like I’m moving forward. All of your past experiences and choices make you who you are today and I’m proud of where I am. Securing a new permanent position was my most-needed goal for 2017. I’m happy, I’m respected, and growing up has become a whole lot more real. And it’s probably going to become surreal when more goals for the future are accomplished.

Take moving out for example, that was my most-wanted goal for 2017. Although me and Danny haven’t yet got our own place, we understand now that we are on a better path in getting there. Saving is under way and we keep imagining what our lives will be like together in our own home. We have more of an understanding of what it takes to meet that goal and are giving ourselves as much time as it needs in order to happen. That’s another key strength of mine that I like to have – patience.

It’s all down to you, just remember that we all have strengths and weaknesses

I think it can take a lot of persistence, patience, and believing in yourself to get through any kind of year. Remember that you can dream big but you can’t have it all. You might see that some people do ‘have it all’ but you start to realise what’s important in your life. And your life is what matters the most. No matter what your strengths and weaknesses are, you can make things happen.

How Patience and Persistence Helps You

Let’s talk about how patience helps you. And how persistence can help too. In July 2015 I wrote a post about aspirations and happiness. I said it then and I still believe now it now more than ever. You may wonder what I’m referring to… and that’s patience and persistence. These are two of the things which are key to maintaining happiness. And holding onto that happiness can lead to a happy future.

Since then, I’ve been down but I got back up again. Living in a frequent shadow of fear. Not feeling my worth. Worrying what if… it was all part of the experience. I went through a stage where I felt worthless, especially when I was unemployed for longer than expected. But these things go to show us that life isn’t always what you expect it to be like.

The persistence side

I used to dread being asked the question, ‘Where do you see yourself in 5 years’ I don’t know do I?! Nevertheless I remembered the importance of persistence. Today I know where I see myself. Maybe it’s not exact but what I imagine the future to be like is close enough for now.

I (hope) to see a woman who’s more confident than she’s ever been. A woman who continues to follow everything that she believes in. She travels so far down the path, she finally can’t believe how far she’s come. I’ll see that while some fly or run, others walk. That’s exactly how I see it.

There’s nothing stopping me from flying but sometimes, no matter how hard you try, it just takes longer for you. You’ll have your time. And when it happens you’ll really know. I think I’m experiencing mine with a great organisation. I’ve embarked on a wonderful journey. New people who have opened new perceptions and new horizons. All I want to do is progress further on this journey and continue to learn new things.

Patience has helped me to see things differently

It’s helped me to find myself; a more relaxed version of me. A young woman who doesn’t worry about looking flawless for work. You know why? She wants to work. It’s more about being happy with the environment and then everything else follows.

When you’re happy, truly happy, it affects everything. The same goes for when you’re feeling down. You either send yourself into a downfall dungeon or to the highest of happy. And sometimes, you can feel like you’re in between.

Mum always tells me to walk, hold my head up high and breathe. I really do recommend this. Once you walk and look forward, you’re bettering your inner health as well as the outer perspectives of what surrounds you.

Now put persistence and patience together

The importance of keeping your persistence and patience that I mentioned last time really does pay off. Some of the best things happen when you least expect them to. Especially when you feel a lower sense of faith in yourself. Take this morning for instance, I woke up to an email to say I’m on Feedspot’s Top 100 UK Lifestyle Blogs.

It’s down to you to have more faith in yourself. Where do you want your future to take you? List 3 things and set yourself a goal. I know that you can do at least one of things. The biggest lesson that I’ve learnt in the past two years is to be myself. I wouldn’t be where I am today without it. I am comfortable within myself. I’m still working on some parts. But that’s one of the things on my list of things to achieve.

Throughout it all, no matter what challenges arise, I know what my forever is. It’s Danny. It helps me to keep believing in patience and persistence.

Let’s Talk Perfection, Dreams, and Challenges

We all have dreams. No one on this earth knows how to always have it all together, even if it seems like they do. Of course, there will be times when there are people who are more confident, seem very sure about a situation, feel ready etc. when deep down, life can throw anything at us. It’s more about how we respond.

Likewise, beauty is a term which everyone sees differently. Our perceptions are what make the world the place that it is. Less judgemental gestures and enjoying life is what I believe in. Remember that you deserve to be happy despite any flaws and faults.

We may fall of track but remember to find yourself but don’t lose yourself.

No dream is too big

You can dream as big as you want. You can aspire to whatever you want to be. If it doesn’t happen, it doesn’t mean you failed. It shows that you have the strength and determination to live to the full, and your thoughts are full of colour and creativity.

Take it from someone who’s been knocked down – you will get to where you want to be. You might have imagined it differently – perhaps not the exact people or place, but you’ll realise where your happiness lies.

Even when you’ve jumped massive leap, don’t stop dreaming. I’ll always think of new things I can attain. Having goals helps me look forward to the future, rather than being the less courageous person I used to be.

Don’t let a challenge weaken you

Do you think there’s an obstacle in your life right now? Think again… you can fly higher than you think and you can run longer than you think.

By this I mean, opportunities are always available and there are always different ways to approach a challenging situation; if you carry on, whether you finish first or last, it doesn’t matter. It’s the fact that you want to be a part of the world that participates to grow stronger.

Some challenges can keep us on our toes.

A little something to add – we all live in this world together. A little smile along with a few kind gestures can go a long way.

What three things do you feel strongly about?