Life, Love, and Memories with Our Loved Ones

On 21 May 2016, it was nine years since my loving grandad passed away. Therefore, I seemed it would be appropriate for me to write a post on the theme of losing someone. Our loved ones are very precious to us.

Though someone we love may have passed away, they are still alive in our hearts. It never gets easier but some people are able to feel a sense of acceptance. You never want to believe that someone has been taken away from us. But for as much as we love them and they love us, each know that deep down, they will both we thought of.

Our loved ones are never a thought away

Just like my granny and grandad’s grave says, ‘never a thought away, loved and missed everyday’. Always and forever.

Yesterday, my boyfriend had finished work and appeared at my house afterwards. He brought flowers – not just any kind – but blue because I always remember how my grandad used to be a Manchester City fan and then, red because he turned into a Manchester United.

Also, Daniel brought some purple flowers as that was the colour that my granny and grandad wore on their wedding day. Gestures like this make me think that Daniel was brought into my life for a reason. He reminds me so much of the generosity and love that my grandad had for everybody.

I’ll always miss them

I used to always wonder when I would get to the point where I would not cry when visiting my granny and grandad’s grave. Yesterday, I was proud to have stayed strong for about twenty minutes whilst Daniel and I shared a conversation at the cemetery. It was not until the point where Daniel looked at me and said,

You miss them don’t you?

And it got me. The tears came strolling down my face. I said to say goodbye with a smile and they know I will back to see them again soon.

Daniel lost his nana in December 2015, so for him to do something like this for me which is hard for him, really shows me how strong love can be. We tend to discuss our grandparents love stories and memories regularly. They are people who we both feel inspired by. And together, we wish to share a love as moving as theirs.

It’s okay to cry

I have learnt that it’s okay to cry. Everyone deals with things in their own way, and whether I cry or not, I still reminisce on the memories that brought so much joy into my life. We went on many adventures. What’s more is that, we shared the toughest time of our lives losing granny. I could not be more thankful for how grandad carried on for us, for his family.

The image of his love and kind-heartedness will never disappear from my mind.

We all have someone in mind when we think about that one person that would do anything for you. You do not even have to ask, they just do it from the bottom of their hearts because they know you so well.

So for the person/people who are in your hearts today, do that one thing for them and smile at the memories you shared together.

14 years ago, granny was taken away but remains in our hearts forever. She is loved and missed every day and I thought today is as good as any day to tell you why her and my grandad are my brightest shining stars at night.

When I was younger and in primary school, there was no stress.

There were tears – however, that was only on occasions such as, when I had fallen in the playground. The cuts and bruises were only something small.

My mum would give me some Germolene cream for my grazed knee and of course, we all used to be given a wet paper towel for those injuries in school.

hand making a heart shape towards the sky

Losing Your Loved Ones Is Never Easy

Losing your loved ones is never easy. In the early hours of Sunday morning, a beautiful mother and nana was lay to rest. Her name was Kathleen. She was one of the loveliest and thoughtful women, who was the nana of her lovely grandchildren. One of these grandchildren is my boyfriend. In just over the two and a half years that I have known her, she always brought a smile to my face when entering and leaving the room.

Regardless of her illnesses, she was still the bubbly and talkative woman that everyone knew. She cared for her family, she attended church every week and she loved her cat Sooty very much. Now though, after all she has been through, the time had come for her to be lay to rest where she will now be reunited with the love of her life.

Your heart never lets go

The point of this post is not only to write about one of the loving and kind-hearted people who I have met but to point out how precious life is. You hear about things happening in the world, you do not think that they are going to happen to you. At other times, you are well aware that one day, something could happen but no matter how much you prepare for that moment it will never be the right time. Your heart never let’s go and a piece of hearts will always be with our loved ones.

I am very grateful for the light that you brought to my life at times when you reminded me of my granny. You’ll be missed and loved every day by your dearest family and friends.

Rest in peace Kathleen Sweeney.

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Why My Grandad is My Hero

This blog post is dedicated to one of my favourite men in the whole world. This being my grandad. He’s the most generous and selfless man I’ll ever know. He taught me to never stop believing and always try my best to meet my goals in life.

I’ll never forget his last words to me. Within the space of 5 days in July, it’s my granny’s birthday, my grandad’s birthday and my granny and grandad’s wedding anniversary. Grandad always shown me that the love from your family is the most important thing to cherish in life. Especially when it comes to occasions where your family have such pride and faith in you.

Grandad finally has something in memory of him

The reason why I focus this post on my grandad is because I have finally done something. It’s something I’ve wanted to do for a while. And this is having grandad’s own little plot beside his and granny’s stone. One thing I respect most about my grandad is that he always put everyone else’s happiness first. He didn’t hesitate about the consequences, money, or the thoughts of other people. He just did it. Without having my grandad in my life I wouldn’t have had such valuable memories. Things such as: yearly trips to Blackpool, Southport, taking my brothers and me to the circus, and making sure we were always happy.

With Blackpool in particular, I’ll never forget this one year. Granny and grandad had booked train tickets and a hotel to Blackpool just because my parents were going there the same evening without us! Although he did many big things, the little ones are just as precious. Since the three of us were born, my grandad created memories through photos and videos.

Turning all those mini tapes into DVDs

In particularly, a few months ago, I had some tapes developed to DVDs, which hold many, many memories such as my Christening, school plays, Holy Communion and first birthday. He even had the background track as Dumbo in my Christening video because it is one of my favourite Disney films. Sadly, my granddad’s face does not appear in them so often but I hear his voice and I know that he would never take the camera of his grandchildren because he adored the three of us so much. I can’t list every single memory but they’ll always be in mind forever.

Growing up, I began to realise that once granny died but never left our hearts, it wasn’t easy for my grandad. But we all stuck together and he still did all of the things he wanted to do. Devastatingly, the day come where he had passed away, which was the day before one of my brother’s GCSE exams.

He’s helped our memories live forever

It was one of the most difficult and heart aching moments I’ve ever had. I know that my grandad deserves this plot I got for him and more for the amazing and loving man that he was. He would have done the same for any of us. Those words, I love you millions, will stay in my heart forever, grandad.

Mine and grandad’s friendship is one I’ll cherish forever.