The love between a mum and her daughter is so special. The hugs, the smiles, the love. There’s also disagreements along the way as you grow older. But they’re always your mum.
A year ago today, Daniel lost his beautiful nana, as she joined heaven to be with his grandad. Others who are missing their nana will be able to relate to this post.
Yesterday, my brothers and I spent Bonfire Night together. The last time we were all together in the same place was sixteen years ago with our grandparents. And 5th November 2015 was the day that we last seen Daniel’s nana.
As we were walking up to the park, me and one of my brothers were walking in front. I turned to him and said “This brings back memories of the last time we walked up here with granny and grandad.” And he responded by saying, “Wow Tash, you were 6!”
But that’s where my memory remembers the most special memories of all.
I remember that evening so clearly. I was wearing my hat, scarf and gloves. Grandad had his camcorder as usual and filmed the moments of the evening. I still have to this tape to this day. I couldn’t be more grateful for all the memories grandad brings back to life. Even though he no longer with us in person, the memories live forever. Granny and grandad shared so many times with us and it makes them extra special to look back on with video material.
16 years back to 5th November 2000 was the night that my wobbly tooth became even more wobbly. I won one of those blow up character things on Hook a Duck. On this evening, I tried to open the part where you blow more air into it with my teeth, and it led to my tooth becoming even looser.
It was a fun night even if it was freezing. Grandad even let Phil and Gaz have a go of the camera. When I play the moments back to myself, hearing the words granny and grandad almost tear my heart apart, especially when it’s them saying our names. But to smile at those times helps a little.
Last night really took me back to those exact moments. I’d been to the same firework display last year with my boyfriend – but this year it meant something so much more to spend it with my brothers again in the same place as before.
To some people, it’s just a park in Salford, and to be honest, we’ve probably thought the same but seeing us together, I know that it brought back memories for the three of us than it did for everyone else we had around us.
Remember how important memories are
I always want my niece to enjoy the greatest things in life, just like granny and grandad did for us. That’s why as soon as we arrived, we asked her if she wanted to go on a ride, eat some candy floss… what did she choose? She wanted to have a go on Hook a Duck.
I smiled. I lifted the hook with her as we hooked a duck and she chose a princess accessory set as her prize. We also seen my mum’s best friend, which was really nice.
Bringing back positive flashbacks
When we went back to where the bonfire was, it was nearly time for the fireworks so we stood chatting for a bit. Then we heard the first bang in the sky. My niece was scared a little but she braved it in the end, apart from saying her feet were too cold. Me and Phil made a comment to each other about how it reminded us both of the same night.
Then we stood in silence and watched the fireworks. Phil was behind me but I looked in to the side of me and seen Gaz look up to the sky. He was actually paying attention to them, just as he did that night. At this moment, I wished there were two more people with us. But I did hope that they were one of the stars in the sky.
It doesn’t matter how many years go by or how fast time passes, people like those two with never escape from my heart.
The main components to win my heart are love, honesty, and happiness. I love my friends and family. We share each other’s happiness and we know that being open to each other is important.
We bounce of each other’s proud and joyful moments, and support each other at our weakest. Keep those people in your life that you can always count on close in your heart. Below are five ways you can win my heart.
Of course food is first on the list! I really do love my food. Chicken nuggets and chicken in general. Bacon, roast dinners, shepherd’s pie, Bolognese (especially with meatballs), and tagliatelle pasta are just a few of my favourites.
I could go on and on with to be honest. I am definitely one of those people who needs to eat. Otherwise I’ll feel light-headed if I skip a meal. So all the better for me really. Also, I enjoy a good Happy Meal or McChicken Sandwich meal.
I’ve made friends with many people – including primary school friends, high school friends, college friends, university friends, work friends, friends of friends etc.
The friendships that have latest have been due to making time on both sides. Being there for each other at the most difficult times, having a laugh, cheering each other on, and motivating each other is important. Faye and Daniel have seen me at my absolute worst and are still here for me.
Having a sense of humour
Anyone that knows me well, knows that I laugh at the most random things. I like to enjoy life and for me. Laughing is part of it. I love hearing funny stories, watching comedic things, and having a laugh. It’s good when you’ve had one of those down days and you come home to someone who can make you laugh. I think we should all laugh at least once a day.
As I’m writing this post I am listening to music through my earphones. Music motivates me in several different ways. It can relax me, it can be thought-provoking, and put me in an uplifting mood when you want to sing and dance around the house.
When I was younger I always listened to the TOP 40 UK Chart every Sunday from 4:00pm. And now I love to keep up with the latest music and still listen to the oldies. My favourite playlists include such a variety of music, that I think some people would be surprised. I like it when a song reminds you of someone/something, and a person can always relate a certain song to you.
Being family orientated
When some people refer to family, they have different perspectives. I including my best friend and boyfriend of course, they have been in my life long enough and made such a huge impact in my life. I love the type of people who really respect their family and love them with every inch of their body.
The only other thing I see come close to importance is your heath, but then, if something ever happens, you know you’ve got your family. Whoever you class as your family is your choice and you can make your own family if you want to.
I’m blessed to have my family. I think it’s important to return the love you receive from your family – from upbringing, to watching us grow, to being there in the most challenging situations. I never forget who my family are. Therefore, I never like to treat any family members like anything other than the important people that they are in my life.
What are the 5 ways to win your heart?
It’s Baby Loss Awareness Week this week. My heart goes out to anyone who loses any of their babies. No matter what age a child is parents, especially mothers, will see them as their ‘babies’. This post is dedicated to my mum.
Years can go by and yet you can never forget someone. You don’t forget their smile, their laugh, their ways. Even if you were at a much younger age than what you are now, there’s always something you can remember someone by.