Looking Towards the Future Is Such an Exciting Thing

October will soon be coming to be an end. Once Halloween is over, Bonfire Night will soon be here and then before you know it, it’ll be Christmas. With preparations for the house kicking in, looking towards the future has never been so exciting.

Earlier me and Danny were talking about how we can wish the week away wishing it was Friday as soon as Monday arrives. We all wish for a longer weekend, right? It’s not so good to wish your life away but of course, it’s always nice to have things to look forward to.

We’re using small milestones to reach our goal of getting the house. The excitement is killing us inside but we want to wait until we’re further into the process so we know for sure that, without a doubt, it’s really happening.

While I’m on a positive trade of thought towards the future, there are a few things that have been on my mind recently.

I’m in one of the happiest places I’ve ever been

You know when you’re sat there thinking “I’m really happy where I am right now?” Well, that’s how it is at the moment. And it’s only going to get better. If we both keep working hard and stay motivated, the journey we’re sharing is going to become even more incredible.

The worrier I used to be doesn’t exist as half as much as it used to. Being yourself is the best way forward and having someone who loves every inch you inside and out, is my version of perfect. The reality is, he goes above and beyond everything I’ve ever dreamt of.

Having patience really does help

Sometimes you want things to happen right here and now. But looking towards the future is so much better, as you can see how worthwhile it really is. If everything happened exactly when you wanted it to, surely you’d run out of things to look forward to? I think it leads to more excitement when you’re closer to such an important event in your life.

Patience helps you to be healthier mentally. You’re not stressing about what’s to come. You simply live in the moment and know that time will take its course. Good things are coming, you have to keep believing that they will.

There’s no one else on earth I’d want to share my future with

I couldn’t be more sure about this one. He’s the one person I want to experience the same old things with and all of the new. Danny has taken me on the biggest journey of my life and it’s only going to get more amazing. How does he put up with my weird, random antics? We’re a right pair! Just the other day we were both in stitches in public and laughing together is one of my favourite things to do.

Count your lucky stars when you have someone and something to hold onto forever. Use each experience to go from strength to strength. Together, you can get everywhere you want to go regardless of what anybody else thinks.

What have you been feeling excited about recently as you’re looking towards the future?

Would You Rather Meet Someone’s Expectations Or Go Beyond Them?

Do you ever feel like you need to meet someone’s expectations? It’s crazy how we live in a world like this. Some people are brought up having to achieve certain grades and milestones to make their parents proud. My childhood was always about doing my best and if great results followed that was just a bonus. The main thing my parents wanted was for me to play, make friends, and learn new things in the process. But there have still been times where I feel like I disappointed them. It’s something we go through even as we get older.

The growing up stage

Growing up you learn that some friendships are forever and some drift away. And that’s okay. You’re still continuing to learn… you always are no matter no age. Facing the fear of not meeting someone’s expectations will worry you. Why? Because you’re afraid they’ll think less of you, or take away your feeling of being ‘good enough’.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve punished myself for not doing as well in something as I thought I would. Sometimes it’s about making more effort and a whole lot of hard work. But not always. At times, you’ve done all you can and it is what it is. As much of a challenge as it’s been, choosing to go on my own path had led me to the best things in life.

The 3 things that have brought out the best happiness in me are:

  • Sticking to my passion for media and writing throughout primary school (writing stories), high school (beginning a media studies qualification) and continuing with that in college and university. It led me to the job I’m in today which I wouldn’t have got with sticking to my dreams and working hard.
  • Doing things to remember the ones I’ve loved and lost. I’m glad that grandad has his name with granny on their plot. Having his name on there is so important to me. Completing the Great Manchester Run in memory of him was one of the most emotional rollercoasters. And it was one of my biggest accomplishments. I’ve also created my fundraising own event to raise awareness of premature babies, still births, and baby loss for Tommy’s. You might have seen my mum’s story about her experience of a still birth.
  • Being in a long-term relationship with my boyfriend who’s so much more than a ‘boyfriend’ – he’s my best friend. Everything I see in my future is with him. He gets frustrated with some of my insecurities and worries because he wishes I’d see what he does. Having someone who sees nothing but the best in you regardless of your flaws releases an amazing feeling.

It goes to show that you can go beyond your own expectations of yourself

Be proud of yourself. There’s nothing wrong with taking pride in what you do. I’ve probably told you several times that life is living. Make a list of all the things you’ve ever wanted to do and plan how/when you can do them. If being happy means you need to remove yourself from environments that drown you in misery then leave. Ask for help if you’re struggling. Surround yourself with positive people and a positive mind will follow.

The key message is, everyone struggles in some way or another. Have more faith in yourself and you’ll see that more things seem possible rather than impossible.

So what do you prefer to do – meet someone’s expectations or choose your own goals and choices? I’d love to know what you think. Comment below or tell me via Tasha Lifestyle on Twitter.

Travel to Wherever Life Takes You

You come into the world as a tiny baby. Months go by and you’re learning how to roll over, crawl, make your own kind of noises to communicate in your own language etc. More time goes by and you’re walking, and eventually you’re talking in actual words. Your parents don’t want you to grow up. You start off with nursery or primary school. By the time you know it you’re in high school. After then, everything really is down to you.

It’s up to you to make decisions for your future. It doesn’t necessarily mean they’ll be the right or wrong ones. They’re your decisions and you’re going to make them. Mine was to attend college and university to study the subjects I was truly passionate about and wanted to do well in.

Did I love the whole college/uni experience? Nope. But I didn’t entirely hate them at the same time (okay maybe with college I did). A good thing though, was that I had quite a few friends at college. Completing college and uni was what I always wanted to do. I told myself to get to the end, for me and no-one else. I’m not on earth to prove myself to anyone, as hard as that can be at times to remember.

Wondering what’s going to happen next? Travel to wherever life takes you.

I remember finding out I was going to uni two weeks before the first term began. Those weeks of waiting really made me so anxious. The dread. The constant questions like, “So, what are you going to do with your life if you’re not getting into uni?” I was clueless – I didn’t have an idea in the slightest what was going to happen. Back then I wish I would’ve replied, “I’m going to do me.”

I guess by being me is what got be that place. There was some potential. The three years were… okay. I’m glad I met a friend who I still keep in touch with today. But I don’t think I got the entire ‘uni life’ experience. I walked in alone. And there was a lot around me that I didn’t enjoy. But I graduated so that’s something that can’t be taken away.

After this point, more challenges came my way. One, two, three, twenty-something interviews later to be where I am today. From a sales assistant from the age of 16 to a learning support administrator, marketing assistant, and now happily in the position of marketing coordinator and content writer.

So I’m kind of stubborn

Some say I’m stubborn and to be honest I can be. But I’m also just true to myself. When you’re told how/when/why/where you should do something, you stop to think, hang on a minute this is my life. So I’m going to live it my way. And I’m so glad I stuck to that. I didn’t get amazing college or uni results like what you see on the news. They always show the ones at the top of the class getting into the most famous and high up institutions. What about the rest of us eh?

There’s so much pressure in the world, we’re expected to achieve certain things to be valued as ‘intelligent’. I know there are certain areas that are my strongest. But I’ve also got my weakest just like everyone else.

Following the crowd has never been my style. I was bad at it and that’s because being like someone else isn’t what’s going to make you happy. Until you see you for who you are and focus on the things that make you happy, you’ll realise you’ll felt nothing like it. You look back and wish you would’ve had the courage to take certain steps sooner. But the important thing is that you got there in the end.

Talking steps independently

I’m the type of person who likes to do a lot of things on my own without anyone holding my hand. If I went alone to get the coil fitted I can do anything, right? It’s funny, whenever Danny makes a comment I always say “It’s cos I’m an independent woman like Beyoncé!”

I walked into my first day of high school on my own being aware that only a couple of people from primary school would be there. I’d spent some dinners alone but that didn’t make me a ‘loner’. Some people knew who I was. And some didn’t. Some days my friends just had things going on. I faced bullies alone. I didn’t tell a soul. It took my brother to figure it out.

In primary school, on several occasions I would wait until I was alone in a room to cry my eyes out when granny passed away. I used to get the bus on my own up to visit grandad at the hospital. And to this day I’ll go to see them at the cemetery alone. But my dad or Danny do like to come along when they can. Dad knows to wait in the car for a while though. And Danny always gives me some time for just the 3 of us.

A lot of the time, I go shopping on my own. I take it upon myself to take myself for a walk! Sometimes I go to the gym alone and sometimes I don’t. It’s nice to have a mixture of both. Obviously when I need help or support, the people who love me most recognise when to step in.

Let the people who care for you be there for you

Sometimes, I’m wrong to think I must have it all together on my own. If you’re lucky to have someone who wants to be there for you, don’t stop them, let them in. My person for that is someone who’s going to be in my life forever. Not just someone who’s in your life temporarily. I’ve learnt that keeping your friends group small is good for me. No drama. I see certain people as the ones I shared memories with. But it doesn’t matter that we’re not friends kind of friends, you know? It’s never going to be like that again and I’m fine with that.

Things happen. Life happens. Travel to wherever it takes you and follow the things that make you happy.

Do Things for You in Your Own Time and in Your Own Way

I’ve realise that a lot of my thoughts today are coming out pretty randomly. You know when you think things in your head and you’re like I’m going to share that with the world? Or is that just me? Well let’s take example…

I mean, am I right?! Then the thoughts got more serious which brings to this post about why you should do things for you and find your own way.

Always remember where you come from

Anyway more to the point, another thought came into my mind today, a more serious one. Why do we feel so pressured by society, by others around us to do things in a particular order, by a certain age, and feel the need to ‘have it all’?

I’m 24 years old. I’m a young woman who has grew up on council estate ever since the day I brought home from the hospital as a baby. I don’t live in my dream city in the world but that doesn’t mean to say I’m ashamed of where I’ve come from. I’ll never try to be bigger or better than the person I am deep down.

One of my brothers always likes to joke around saying I’m ‘posh’ if I say words in a different accent to him. But he knows I’m truly the girl from her home city. One day I’m going to move out (next year). And I’ll be calling what’s home now mum and dad’s. But just as they say to my older brothers, this will always be our home.

Finding a real love for writing

I got my degree at the age of 21. I could’ve got it at 40 or not at all, I like to think I’d still be proud at wherever I was in life. In fact, I know I would be. It’s important to find your passion and work hard towards something. But not everyone knows what that is for them. It wasn’t until 3 years ago when I shared my first blog post about happiness and aspirations that I realised what my ‘thing’ was. And it was and still is a love for writing.

Writing stories in primary school and high school was nothing compared to those essays in college and university. Wow they were a different kind. But I realised that my love for writing wasn’t all about the evaluations on the subject I studied or dissertation topics. I didn’t even get the grade I wanted at university. But I accomplished something new which was very hard-working and quite difficult not to get down at.

You’ll have people tell you all sorts but keep doing what you believe is right for you

It was during and after university where one of the biggest challenges approached me. I felt like I always getting things wrong. Making the wrong decisions. Feeling terribly anxious. And reading into every little detail about not only studies but life in general. It hasn’t been until this past year that I’ve really found myself.

After feeling worthless, not because of the people around me but the lack of opportunities in the employment world. Turns out that I wasn’t getting things wrong. Even with people telling me that I need to get a move on or the looking like a waste of space to others. I was finding myself and finding the right way to go for me, not for anybody else.

Living for the moment

I’ve always believed in travelling on my own path. And part of that is living. We’re not just on this earth to exist, work, and pay things. We’re alive so we should be living. Some will say but I can’t afford it or I’d love to do that. Well why can’t you?

For some people, it can be possible. If you do things the right way you can do so many things. Take me for instance – saving for a house doesn’t stop me having fun. My priorities are in order but I still see my friends. Sometimes we stay in. Sometimes we go out. I still love to travel, it gives me something to look forward to. Some people have children and other commitments. And one day I’d hope to have those. But right now I’m living to take opportunities while I can.

The future can be scary but it can also be amazing

You can’t predict the future. And you can’t go back in time. But you can always make tomorrow a better day. That’s the motivation I try to wake up with each morning. I’m happy to see that I’ve killed a lot of my fears away. Some big and some small. But they’ve all counted in making me who I am today.

The biggest fears and challenges, the negative what ifs, can test you so much. What if you  put your all into something, do something great, and become closer to reaching new moments you never thought you’d have? That sounds much better, right?

As for the future, I plan to continue to remember what it means to have each day. Take the people who we always say we ‘lost too soon’. What are the things they would’ve loved to have seen you do, or that they never had the chance to do? Make a difference. Smile. And carry on being you.

Eminem Presents His Revival Tour at Twickenham Stadium in London

This weekend me and Danny travelled to London to see Eminem for his Revival tour, which he’s currently in the UK for. During his 2018 tour he’s performed in several European places including Germany, Norway, and Italy. For as long as I’ve really known Danny, I’ve known that Eminem is a singer he always hoped about going to see live one day. And this finally happened for him on Saturday 14th July at Twickenham Stadium.

Initially, I decided to purchase the tickets for his 25th birthday surprise. I ordered them at the January and his birthday was in May. Well I couldn’t keep it in. In fact, I think it only took me an hour or two to send him a screenshot that we’re going to see Eminem. Since, everyone’s been asking, “You like Eminem?” Er, yeah! Mainly his older songs but his new album is good too. I mean an album featuring Ed Sheeran, Alicia Keys, and Beyoncé. Need I say more?

Ah it was sick! Best concert I’ve been too. – Danny

crowd at eminem in london twickenham stadium

My favourite songs from his performance were: Walk on Water, Like Toy Soldiers, Lose Yourself, Stan, The Way I Am, and River. Yeah… I couldn’t pick just one or two! He only went and brought 50 Cent and Skylar Grey on stage too. He was just absolutely incredible. We heard that Ed Sheeran joined him on stage on Sunday’s show but it’s all good because at least we’ve seen him twice before on his own.

As we travelled on the Friday night and didn’t come home until Monday afternoon, we made the most of our travels in London. It was our third visit to London and it was nice to see parts of London that we had never seen before. On the Sunday we were in such a good mood, still having Eminem songs playing over in our heads. It was also our first time choosing Airbnb. We were lucky to have such a lovely and helpful lady welcoming us into her home.

Such a fun weekend all round. We cannot wait for our next trip, which is to Amsterdam in November.

Talking About What’s New This February

February, the month where people look forward to Valentine’s Day. Or the month where people hate the thought of Valentine’s Day approaching. But as that’s happened, I wanted to bring you February’s weekend edition of what’s been happening with me. Last month, I told you about a television show that me and Danny went to see, What Would Your Kid Do? We missed the first episode aired on TV with our travels from Dublin.

So, we thought we would start to watch it the week after. Well, it turns out that, the first episode was the one where we were in the audience. I’m kind of glad in a way because I probably wouldn’t have wanted other people to spot us!

Living for the weekend

Sometimes, weekends just don’t feel fun anymore. Then you remember that you’re an adult. And sometimes, doing nothing, is the best thing to do. Take today for instance, I woke up at 7.30am. I eventually got washed and dressed and came home from my boyfriend’s around 10.00am. I always seem to want to get up and get things done. When I got through the door, I headed straight to my room to polish my unit and tv and put fresh bedding on my bed. Doesn’t fresh bedding just make everything better?!

Then I thought to myself, what now? Some days you need to realise that relaxing and enjoying some time to yourself is important. I’m currently writing this post after a nice hot bath. Having made the decision to get into my pyjamas, I took to my Mac, put my headphones in and started to blog.

There’s more to come after February

February has a few birthday months in it for my family. It’s Danny’s sister’s (Katie) on 17th, my mum’s on 19th and Danny’s cousin’s (Ellie) on 25th. It was lovely to visit Katie on Friday evening for a catch up and see how her little family are doing. Already I’m thinking about the birthdays coming up next month and these ones aren’t even over yet. I’m one of those people that buy birthday cards in advance – months in advance. So it’s all good on that part. It’s just sorting out what to get everyone. But we always figure it out.

There’s 11 days to left until I start taking part in Dechox. It lasts throughout the whole of March. How good is it that Easter falls on 1st April? That means I can eat all the chocolate I want after Dechox ends. Perfect timing! You may already know about the reasons why the British Heart Foundation is so close to my heart. But that aside, I think with the next part of this post, there’s even more reason to get involved.

Taking in how important blood pressure is

I’ve got another one of those blood pressure appointments at the doctors next week – yes again. There’s been about 4-5 in the past 5 months. So hopefully, I’ll have something to write about with that. It’s quite odd actually. I’ve had a weird cycle of up and down readings for the last couple of years. But more recent months have shown a spike in results. My body seems to be rejecting the first dose of medication. So the doctor has decided to double it.

Fingers crossed it’s worked. Otherwise, this whole process won’t help the situation at all. I’ve been on Propranolol (beta blockers) for 7 years and apparently, they’re supposed to help reduce hypertension. Strangely enough, I never used to have any blood pressure problems. But still, they definitely don’t do anything on that part. I’m glad they reduce the frequency of my migraines though. A 23-year-old woman on blood pressure medication. Even the nurse couldn’t believe it. It’s about monitoring me and continuing tests.

What’s new with you this February?