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Thoughts of a mum to be as due date approaches

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Becoming a mum for the first time, for me, has brought the most exciting and heartwarming journey but little bits of worry are starting to creep up now. After speaking to a couple of friends and of course my Danny, they know it’s most likely down to the closeness of baby’s due date approaching. Little things are building up in my mind – some of which won’t even be a thought when baby is on the outside world no doubt. Here are some pieces of advice that I am going to let soak in and remember the next time I start to feel a little panicked.

Not everything can be done in a day!

This one is from myself. As baby’s arrival gets closer, I keep looking at things that are lying around the house upstairs because we are in the middle of having some things sorted out e.g. shower and retiling, paint tins in the room, bits of clutter we are waiting to be collected etc. Danny has done an amazing job with the decorating around the house. The only other main room to do now is the living room and small touching up around the completed ones. Once bits of furniture we don’t need anymore are gone, I’m sure I’ll feel much happier to see less clutter.

You’ll laugh at me right now because as far as baby is concerned, everything in place so I shouldn’t be so bothered but hey, it’s me. Another thing that bugs me is the constant sight of spiders. Yes, I know that sounds random but they are everywhere at the minute. I am going to try some peppermint oil and hope that does the trick. It’s one fear I don’t think will ever completely go away. I’m going to have more things on my hands soon to worry about, so I’ll have to try my best to ignore those creepy crawlies! Typing these things makes me feel pretty daft but it’s the truth.

You’ve got food, nappies, warmth, and a whole lot of love!

A lovely friend said this to me just this morning and she’s absolutely right. All of these little stresses I have at the moment will disappear once our little one is here. He is going to be so loved and bring a whole new light and level of happiness into our lives. I’ve got to stay as happy as I can to make him happy – that goes for today and once he is born.

It amazes me every day that we are brining a new life into the world. A baby boy, a son to call our own. When I take this piece of advice on board, it gets me thinking about his little face, what his little fingers and toes are going to look like, and when we look into each other’s eyes for the first time. This is such a special time and I am going to remind myself to cherish these last few weeks because as excited as we are, I know I’ll miss having a baby bump, watching him grow and wriggle around.

You’ve got me, everything will be okay!

Time and time again, Danny will say, “Tasha, do you really think I’ll let anything happen to you.” He tells me that we’re in this together and no matter what challenges come our way, we will face them as a team. Even though he constantly tells me he is right – guess what, he is right again! Danny has things on his mind too but he knows that the both of us will work together and give our baby all of the love in the world and that’s the most important thing they need.

Over the last couple of weeks, I have been chatting away to Danny to say, “What if I do this or that wrong?” or “What if I struggle in labour?” These are normal thoughts, right? If anything happens before I go into hospital, Danny will be here before I know it. Before the days we got together, he looked after me, and now he is there for me more than ever. Every bone in his body is full of love, support, and understanding (he has also picked up my foreign Tasha language really well!)

We’ve got this!

So, it goes without saying, I am bound to worry a little or a lot, just like any mum to be. But I can 100% say that I am looking forward to every moment to come. The cries, sleepless nights, and challenges with patience will hit for sure but it is going to be really worth it. For two people who have always wanted a child, there isn’t a single moment we will take for granted.

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Mum to be – what to pack in your hospital bag

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Are you a mum to be like me and are thinking about what to pack in your hospital bag? I am 36 weeks in but have had our bags packed for a while now just in case I go into labour early because you never know! Anyone that knows me understands how organised I like to be so where I can, I try to make that possible.

In early August, Danny and I are expecting our first child. Due to Covid we haven’t been able to attend any antenatal classes in person but there have been a few we have seen available online, two of which we have attended for free. The class by Let’s Talk Birth and Baby gave us an idea of what to pack in our hospital bags along with other little tips we read online.

How many bags do I need to pack?

We have gone with 3 bags – 1 for me, 1 for baby, and Danny is taking his rucksack. Mine is a lovely pink bag I had already bought from Amazon in 2019. It’s great for overnight or weekend stays if you go on a trip too. A few months ago, we purchased a cute set of maternity and changing bags and are using one of them for baby.

What’s in baby’s bag?

We decided to pack the following items for baby. Some parents would take less and some take more. Also, a little tip which might help, putting a nappy, vest, baby grow and newborn hat in a little sandwich bag, helps to keep things organised.

  • Newborn vests x 3-5
  • New born sleep suits/baby grows x 3-5
  • Small pack of newborn nappies (we chose the free Pampers pack we got from Emma’s Diary
  • Cotton wool balls
  • Cellular blanket
  • Ready made formula and bottles (for mums who choose to formula feed)
  • Going home outfit
  • Mini Sudocrem and Bepanthen cream (couldn’t decide)
  • Newborn hat x2
  • Muslin cloths
  • Don’t forget the car seat!

What’s in mum’s bag?

  • Comfy nighty x2
  • Maternity sanitary towels
  • Breast pads
  • Mini shampoo and conditioner
  • Mini shower gel and sponge
  • Dark towel for shower
  • Mini pack of face wipes
  • Deodorant
  • Phone charger
  • Snacks – I’m thinking fruit, snack bars, Snack a Jacks, fruit juice etc.
  • Black knickers and comfy wireless bra
  • Lip balm
  • Slippers and socks (not sure if I’ll wear the socks or not)
  • Light robe – it’s way too warm for a fluffy dressing gown!
  • Loose going home outfit – leggings, a baggy top OR a loose maxi dress (depends on how I feel) with flip flops
  • Hair scrunchie (or bobble)
  • Toothbrush and toothpaste
  • Hairbrush
  • Small concealer/foundation – wonder if it’ll actually get used!
  • Little bag for dirty washing
  • Prescribed medication
  • Don’t forget your maternity notes (and birth plan if you have one)

What’s in dad’s bag?

  • Deodorant
  • Toothbrush
  • Extra set of clothes (just in case)
  • Snacks – leaving Danny to choose!
  • Drinks – no doubt an energy drink or two
  • There’s enough of the other toiletries above for both of us

Some mums have their own idea of what they would like to pack but I hope this helps other first time mums who are wondering where to start. And I honestly think it’s never too early to be prepared.

Good luck to all of the mamas to be out there!