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Things I’ll miss about pregnancy

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Ever since the third trimester began, I started to realise the whole pregnancy journey goes so fast, even the parts you thought were dragging. Almost 7 weeks to go now until my due date. Quite a few friends and family members think he will here sooner. We can’t wait!

Over the last couple of weeks, I’ve been thinking about all of the things I’ll miss about pregnancy. The days have suddenly arrived where my ankles disappear, I might throw up, or I just want to go to sleep. These things are more than worth it when I know I’m bringing a new little life into the world, even more exciting that it’s our first.

Watching my bump grow…

…soon be a baby to hold in my arms. I can’t wait to look into those eyes of his for the first time. I have a photo on my phone capturing the first time I thought I had a ‘bump’ like appearance. Wow, wow, wow! The difference now is just incredible. There’s an actual baby boy inside me and it shows.

Feeling bump move…

The bump that will soon be a little baby boy wriggling around in the real world, in our home. I remember the first time I felt the tiniest of flutters, I got all giddy and excited. Then when the real kicks, movements, and tumbles arrived it’s been what feels like the most thrilling rollercoaster – literally.

Having an excuse to eat whatever whenever

Maybe that’s a little lie because let’s be honest, I’ll still eat all of the goodies I want to. That aside, I doubt I’ll be eating dry crackers at any hour of the day to help but sickness at bay. Twice now I have bought a cheesecake knowing I am the only person in the house who will eat it… what a chunk.

There’s much more to come…

Danny and I have such a special bond with baby bump already. Ever since he has been snuggled up inside me we have listened to music, danced together, had little conversations with him, rubbed my stomach when he moves etc. We can only image the unconditional love we will have from the minute he is born. No doubt I’ll be teary eyed with the biggest smile on my face for a long while. I understand there will be sleepless nights, challenging days, and maybe times where I don’t know how to keep it together… but it will be our kind of perfect because our first baby is going to light up our lives like nothing or no one ever has before.

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Spending Time with Bump

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You might think ‘spending time with bump’ sounds a little odd because he is being carried by me each day. That’s true but I’ve been thinking about how much time I actually dedicate to him even though he’s not on the outside world yet…

Being pregnant is one of the most incredible experiences I have had so far in my life. A little human is growing inside me every day. I feel him kick, wriggle, and move around.

From the moment I found out I was pregnant those ‘mum instincts’ kicked in. And it’s not until recently that I needed to be reminded of them. That’s where my health comes into play. Stress has been a big eye opener in the last few days on how it affects not only me but baby too.

Looking after bump starts with me

In order to look after baby bump, I need to look after myself. I’ve been told several times to take it easy – stop running wild getting those washes done, hoovering up early in the morning, thinking everything has to be done there and then. And there’s a lot going on with day-to-day life too.

Today, I stopped to think, what’s the most important thing in my life right now? And the answer is plural, baby and Danny. A whole new little life and the love of my life to call my own. They give me more meaning each day. I’ve learnt a whole new kind of love and what it feels like to protect and nurture something as well as someone. Our baby boy has brought so much light into our lives before he has even been born.

So, spending time with bump needs to be a big focus for me right now. I always place my hand over my belly and rub it when I feel him. But sometimes I get upset when he doesn’t do the same in return, moving to let me know he is there. And I’ve realised that’s down to me too. Stress isn’t good for anyone, especially not now in my final trimester and the fact I’ve had chronic hypertension (for the last 4 years), needs to be considered. My blood pressure has been creeping up. I know the pregnancy hormones don’t help but I need to change what I do to improve those readings at times.

Taking a step back

Now, I’m really going to try to take more breaks and put things into perspective, otherwise things will take a toll (or more so than they are doing at the moment). I’ve enjoyed my pregnancy so much and I don’t want that to change. It’s such a special, unreal time in my life and I am cherishing it all – the good days and those that aren’t as easy. I do think there should be as many smiles as possible, giving our little boy a message to be smiling inside too.

I’m going to spend more time with bump even if that means a whole day in bed, just me and him. I’m also going to continue to talk to him more, play a song and connect with him because when things get tough, alongside Danny, he makes everything better.

If you’re experiencing your first, second, third, whatever number of pregnancy, let your baby bump know you’re there and do everything in your power to love and care for them.

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We Are Having a Baby Boy!

About a month after we discovered I was pregnant, there were many questions on our minds, one being “I wonder if we are having a boy or girl?” For us, the most important thing is that our baby is healthy and developing well but it’s exciting to think about whether you are bringing a baby boy or girl into the world.

Before the 20 week scan

Leading up to the 20 week anatomy scan, I just wanted to be sure everything was okay. I have worried about a couple of things along the way but I am only human. I guess those mum feelings kick in right away eh? Each week I learn about how our baby is developing and what’s new. From around the moment their heart starts to beat to having tiny fingers, toes and nails, to growing their vital organs and being able to recognise their gender on a scan.

The day of the 20 week scan

The day had finally arrived! As excited as I felt to see our baby, I’ll admit I was little nervous. “What if the sonographer picks something up? Have I been doing everything I can to make sure they are as healthy as possible?

Our appointment was early in the morning at 8am so we didn’t have to wait around wondering for part of the day. We entered the room, I lay on the bed and the sonographer put some gel on my stomach to start the ultrasound. She gave us a quick glimpse of baby, said she will do all of the checks then come back to show us baby again at the end in more detail.

I was asked to lie on my left side because baby was in a funny position and then asked to lie on my right side. The silence killed me wondering what was going on. A couple of tears strolled down my eyes. Moments later the sonographer turned the screen to us and there were no concerns.

I smiled and heart began to relax. Oh my, their little hands, arms, legs, heart beating strong, even their eye sockets! I fell in love all over again. Danny squeezed my hand then he started to tear up. Everything’s okay. In fact, it’s amazing. Our little dream come true is growing well and everything looks healthy. And guess what? We are having a BABY BOY! A big brother to our second child in the future (we hope). He was looking right at us and gave us a wave.

Were any of the gender myths true?

Quite a few people asked me if I had signs or feelings along the way that it’s a boy or girl. The truth is, no. This is my first pregnancy so I have nothing to compare it to. And it turns out all of the baby gender myths weren’t true for me. I have become a chocoholic, haven’t had any real cravings, typical morning sickness in the first trimester etc. One thing I didn’t have before I was pregnant is indigestion and that sure loves to kick in every now and again, especially at the night time.

Boy or girl, we always knew our baby would we loved so much even before they are born. We are imagining so many special moments in the future. 

We are having a son who will be a page boy when we get married! I am imagining the cuteness already. There are so many magical moments happening for us and there isn’t anyone else I would want to experience them all with but Danny. We’ve got this!

Here’s to seeing you again, our beautiful baby boy.