There comes a day at least once in our lives where we need Wednesday Wisdom more than ever. And not just on Wednesdays. They bring more happiness into our day and make us feel more fresh minded.
The future can be scary but it can also be exciting. Recently I have noticed that for many people having a baby is a key example. Many friends and people I know of are experiencing this. The thought can terrify one person as they do not feel prepared physically and emotionally; whereas another cannot wait for their little bundle of joy.
When that time does come, it often seems to be the case that, the person who was worried has now mastered the parenting life or at least are trying their best to. For a moment, you take away your financial worries and cherish the love you have for your child/children.
Take being offered a new job for example. The thought of entering a whole new employment world, meeting new people and adapting to new tasks can be nerve-wracking. On the other hand, you can take the perspective that it is a door opening to a whole new future.
Regardless if you enjoy the role, you learn your strengths and weaknesses. You learn what kind of environment is best for you and when you’re in the right place for you, you can look forward to the future – progressing with more responsibilities job wise and outside of work.
This leads me onto the subject of moving out. My boyfriend and I plan to so do in the near future. It could be sooner or later than we hope. Nevertheless, as much as the thought used to daunt me of moving out from living with my parents, I have someone by my side to share the journey with. As with everything else I have achieved in the past three years. I no longer feel scared. I feel excited more than anything. Come rain or shine, we approach what life throws at us together.
And now, you’re probably wondering that there are more things that ponder upon us. Yes, you’re right, there certainly are. The future can give the expected just as it can give the unexpected. Whether it be losing something or someone so dearest you while achieving your dreams that you never thought you would obtain on the other side of the spectrum.
There is nothing that can replace someone but it is almost as though they are sending you a gift to show you that good things can happen. Yesterday, I did not think a shopping trip in preparation for moving out would find me in a shop buying a large rug discounted in the sale to £1. Perfect. I also happened to find myself with many other bargains on my lookout.
Okay so this does not sound like a huge, life changing example but it matters to me. I enjoy the small things in life as well as I appreciate the positively big things that can impact your future. The day shown me that, even though I was not prepared to pay a particular amount for a bin as you store rubbish in it (seriously, this a valid point), there are things which will surprise you on the way and make it all the better.
The examples only cater for a few things in life but they are real. Big or small, events impact everyone differently. The point I’m trying to make is that, there is a lot you need to do in many situations. As hard and time-consuming as things can be which in some cases, they can seem to take over your life, there’s always something that shines on the other side.
Being yourself is something I truly believe in. Your relationship with your mother, father, child, boyfriend etc. is what you make it. Sure, there are times when you do not agree with one another; you have different traditions and you most certainly do not always see things the same way.
Some people may think that, writing is always easy. You look through it to adjust some words and phrases and then you are done. Well that’s not true. There are days where my mind will go blank. This does not mean to say that I do not enjoy what I do. I take my notepad and I write down as many ideas as I can think of. Ideas that can create small or longer posts, it does not matter. Some of the littlest plans, can become the greater end piece.
What I love about writing
Today, I did the exact of the above. Towards the end of my shift at work, I took my pen and notepad jotted down an idea, then another came into ahead and so on. For anyone else that does this will know that you appear to have pages of ideas waiting to be written about. Some of your audience will prefer a particular post in comparison to another. That is always going to happen.
What I love about writing the most, more than actually getting a piece finished, is knowing the effort that I have put into it. At times, ideas do flow more regularly through my mind. This is expected as it depends on how hectic/or not in most cases that my day has been.
To be honest, today felt like a long day even though it was not as busy as others have been but I was still determined to get some writing plans and final pieces finished which I have (this blog post and an article due to be published later next week). Regardless of whether I develop professional in the writing industry or continue to blog, I will always enjoy it. The entire process gives me a sense of satisfaction on a regular basis. You can creative as you want.
Create your own happiness
You can create your own mood. You can offer your own advice. It is fair that some people will not always agree or find your stories inspirational. But you should stick to what works for you. If you feel inspired about something – write about it. The same goes for if you feel like you have a lot to discuss on a particular topic, whether it be a celebrity or something historic in the medieval era. Your writing, your choice.
As many of my readers will know, I have found myself in writing. Not only do I write about experiences, ‘top ten lists’, survey results, family life etc. I thoroughly enjoy writing about awareness subjects. Both raising awareness and fundraising are interests of mine and I am sure that I’ll always follow these types of subjects. As with today, I came across an email from a petition I signed, which lead to creating an article for the online magazine that I am currently contributing to.
Follow what you believe in
Of course, I will also follow other preferences of mine, which include popular culture and the analysis of different media platforms. On a personal level, I will continue to develop my posts which relate to the influence that experiences have had on my life.
People ask me what I write about. I used to worry that I did not have one particular theme. However now, I have realised that, having multiple topics to write about is my factor. In turn, from choosing to argue particular cases which have had a significance in my life, to analysing a film I enjoyed/did not enjoy, I am doing what works for me.
The other day I wrote a poem. Yes, a poem. I have not have blogged one before this occasion but a sudden “Why not?” popped into my head. It turns out, I received more audience interaction than some of my most read posts.
To those who do not understand your journey, that is okay because it is yours, not theirs.
All of my learning experiences have led me on a path to discovering my aspirations and happiness. As a twenty-one-year-old, turning twenty-two in just over three month’s time, I am happy with my accomplishments of finishing primary, secondary and further education. Throughout school, college, and university I have recognised many strengths and weaknesses, most of which I have overcome and have maintained a stronger personality with.
I love the fact that, the people who know me best can read me like a book but I can also surprise them with my spontaneity. It does not matter what age you are, or whether your learning curves are educational, emotional or physical. What matters is, the sense of pride and satisfaction that you gain from knowing you have persisted with a challenging event in your life, or choosing to confront challenges with a positive attitude.
Challenges bring new learning experiences
In regards to challenges, I have felt like giving up before. During my A-levels, I just wanted to cry and I did not think I would pass my ICT and Spanish. I look at myself now and think, “Wow I have a qualification in another language and I have gained knowledge with technology that I never thought I would have.”
We all have a feeling where we want to just scream and give up but do not always believe that it is the best option. First, test yourself further and you will surprise yourself with your capabilities. Whether it be something like the above or conquering your greatest fear, give it a go. I for sure, never thought I would go on some of the roller coasters and rides that I have or jump into the middle of the deep-sea. I did though. Yes, I was scared but the adrenaline was amazing! And most of the time, you are glad you did those things.
I’m not a big believer in being a failure, if you have not fully completed something, did not attain your desired grade or if something does not work out as planned. We are all successful in our own ways. If you have attempted to do something with all of your full potential, then in my eyes, you are successful. You have approached something, which you aimed to start and being a person who tries is better than not chancing something altogether.
Growing personally and professionally
I see each challenge as an opportunity to grow personally and professionally. My emotions are a lot stronger than they used to be, in the way that I take more pride in my achievements and try to face new interviews and job opportunities with the right level of confidence. In addition, I have learnt that, comparing yourself to others is not healthy. I will admit that I have done this plenty of times and it has not had a positive affect on me whatsoever. Do not doubt yourself for one second.
You might think that a particular woman/man is prettier/more handsome than you, has more qualifications than you, has more experience, is more popular; however, the real importance of a person is being themselves. Be true to who you really are. In the past, I have worried a great deal about being right for someone.
I have worried about how I seem to other people. Am I doing this right? Could I be more like them? Oh, how silly. I am glad I finally held my head up high and began to admire myself. There is nothing wrong with having flaws and there is nothing wrong with recognising your qualities. We all have something to offer. There are many things I wish I could be better at, some I have tried and some I know I will be in the future.
Here’s to the future and more learning experiences
For now, I am focusing the factors that make my happiness. Never forget about the people who love you and make you feel at your very best the most. Everyone has their opinions, that is their problem, not yours. Trust me, I have wasted too much time worrying about other people’s reactions and thoughts about me. Actually, I have wasted too much time thinking about something, which would not even be a concern to somebody else. I have felt upset and embarrassed over things I should not have. I have been made to look like the fool many times.
But in the end, some people, the ones who really matter, know who you are. They know why you did what you did. They can understand but may not always know how it felt during a long process leading up to it. The important thing though, is that, you, yourself have overcome it. Like me, you are past it.
With all things considered, you can see that experiences reinforce us to be a stronger person. I for one have built a much healthier person in myself. Most people know the giddy, happy person that I am. This is me at my very best and I intend to continue this way.
The main message here is, smile and be you!
Aspirations and happiness are two things I think of quite a lot. Many people from a professional field or in general might ask you: “Where do you see yourself in five years’ time?” This question obviously has a lot of value as it illustrates your attributions to life and to the workplace and how ambitious you want to be. For some people, the question could not matter as they prefer to have more spontaneity in their lives rather than a set plan.
I’ve always had goals which I have reached and some I have not reached in life. But I’d rather ask myself the question, “How far have you come in the past five years?” Noticing your strengths and weaknesses over a period of time for me is the key to finding out who you are. It also helps to discover what you really aspire in life.
Developing personally and professionally to meet my aspirations
I’d like to develop both personally and professionally. Of course this means a progressive career. But I also believe that the pride of your family and friends is what highlights your positive attitude and willingness to learn more. I’ve learnt that you can put yourself out there. Hence my numerous daily job applications which have been submitted. Also, maybe I should’ve created this blog and my whilst at university.
That doesn’t matter though. What matters is that, I know I am capable of getting where I want to be, I just have to keep my persistence and faith. This will hopefully show employers and myself that I am a dedicated individual. I have a degree, I have some work experience. But most of all, I’ve learnt not be negative about not attaining my desired grade. I know that I put all of my effort into university while attending my work experience and part-time work aside this.
Without question, I show more initiative today than I did five years ago. I finished school and began working at Manchester United Megastore as a cashier. I did the small, occasional shift. But in time I began to be available for more work. This led to a progressive role to sales floor. Here, I grew a lot more confidence. And I started to interact with people and customers from all kinds of cultures. I dealt with a lot more challenging situations. So much more perseverance and determination to help others.
It’s been the right path for me and my happiness
When I think about the work I have studied in media over the past seven years, I can honestly say I chose the right path. This is regardless of the impatience it can cause at times when finding the right job. I think about when I’ve been approached by MUTV and Premier League Productions in work for filming. The time where I was quite timid and reluctant to being in front of the camera.
However, today, I realised something else. When I eventually did agree to it, it was the right thing to do. I’ve surprised myself so much. I said I never wanted to be in front of the camera but I actually enjoyed it. I can only hope that the future brings me as much happiness as the past five years have.