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Mum to be – what to pack in your hospital bag

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Are you a mum to be like me and are thinking about what to pack in your hospital bag? I am 36 weeks in but have had our bags packed for a while now just in case I go into labour early because you never know! Anyone that knows me understands how organised I like to be so where I can, I try to make that possible.

In early August, Danny and I are expecting our first child. Due to Covid we haven’t been able to attend any antenatal classes in person but there have been a few we have seen available online, two of which we have attended for free. The class by Let’s Talk Birth and Baby gave us an idea of what to pack in our hospital bags along with other little tips we read online.

How many bags do I need to pack?

We have gone with 3 bags – 1 for me, 1 for baby, and Danny is taking his rucksack. Mine is a lovely pink bag I had already bought from Amazon in 2019. It’s great for overnight or weekend stays if you go on a trip too. A few months ago, we purchased a cute set of maternity and changing bags and are using one of them for baby.

What’s in baby’s bag?

We decided to pack the following items for baby. Some parents would take less and some take more. Also, a little tip which might help, putting a nappy, vest, baby grow and newborn hat in a little sandwich bag, helps to keep things organised.

  • Newborn vests x 3-5
  • New born sleep suits/baby grows x 3-5
  • Small pack of newborn nappies (we chose the free Pampers pack we got from Emma’s Diary
  • Cotton wool balls
  • Cellular blanket
  • Ready made formula and bottles (for mums who choose to formula feed)
  • Going home outfit
  • Mini Sudocrem and Bepanthen cream (couldn’t decide)
  • Newborn hat x2
  • Muslin cloths
  • Don’t forget the car seat!

What’s in mum’s bag?

  • Comfy nighty x2
  • Maternity sanitary towels
  • Breast pads
  • Mini shampoo and conditioner
  • Mini shower gel and sponge
  • Dark towel for shower
  • Mini pack of face wipes
  • Deodorant
  • Phone charger
  • Snacks – I’m thinking fruit, snack bars, Snack a Jacks, fruit juice etc.
  • Black knickers and comfy wireless bra
  • Lip balm
  • Slippers and socks (not sure if I’ll wear the socks or not)
  • Light robe – it’s way too warm for a fluffy dressing gown!
  • Loose going home outfit – leggings, a baggy top OR a loose maxi dress (depends on how I feel) with flip flops
  • Hair scrunchie (or bobble)
  • Toothbrush and toothpaste
  • Hairbrush
  • Small concealer/foundation – wonder if it’ll actually get used!
  • Puzzle book
  • Little bag for dirty washing
  • Prescribed medication
  • Don’t forget your maternity notes (and birth plan if you have one)

What’s in dad’s bag?

  • Deodorant
  • Toothbrush
  • Extra set of clothes (just in case)
  • Snacks – leaving Danny to choose!
  • Drinks – no doubt an energy drink or two
  • There’s enough of the other toiletries above for both of us

Some mums have their own idea of what they would like to pack but I hope this helps other first time mums who are wondering where to start. And I honestly think it’s never too early to be prepared.

Good luck to all of the mamas to be out there!

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What does 4th July mean to me?

4th July – I like to think it’s where it all began. The date marks a special memory for Danny and I and it doesn’t have anything to do with America celebrating Independence Day! On 4th July 2010, we met with a couple of friends to say goodbye to our primary school before it was being knocked down. Not for one minute did I imagine that day would play a part in where we are today.

Most days our version of saying “Hi” was smiling at one another when we bumped into each other or passed in the college corridors. I even remember going into reception as I was about 5 minutes away from my Spanish lesson beginning. I didn’t like how I looked that day but he still turned my way and smiled. Then there was there was a day I was sat outside an exam room waiting for my speaking exam like a nervous wreck… again for Spanish!

I look back and wish I had more confidence to bring more conversation in person. We always had a laugh and spoke to each other through texts. I didn’t see back then what I do now. Everyone asked if there was anything between us and I would say, “Noooo, we just love having each other to talk to.” How wrong was I?!

We were out of touch for a year or so. Little did I know, things were about to change. The friendship was always there. We went on so many nights out together with friends. I lost count of the times we would spent chatting away on the curb outside whilst everyone else carried on the drunken antics waiting for food or a taxi home. The conversations were about absolutely anything – it was just so easy. We had come a long way from the silence in the corridors! At this point, I knew there was a connection, something that got stronger as the weeks went by. And the weeks turned into months.

What happened next? We were speaking most days or every day now. Danny gave me my first “Happy Valentine’s Day” message. He carried me over the puddles in the rain on Boxing Day 2012 (remembering key dates again). We would always dance together. The smiles were meaning more every time we looked at each other. Danny always made sure I got home safe – he even waited outside a club for me once. There wasn’t a time where he didn’t look out for me. Whenever I entered the same room, he would come and give me a hug. So, most people would think we were together now. And when I look back at photos, I think, “Wow, Danny didn’t half stick around!”

We finally had a realisation, it was probably mostly me to blame for taking so long. One night in the midst of everyone having fun and enjoying themselves, we took a moment to ourselves.

After several attempts of figuring out and asking if I would be his girlfriend, I finally took some faith in the friendship we had. I was always terrified if anything went wrong and would ruin in. What a fool, Tasha! Every day since has helped to building a new level closeness, my best friend, and the man I fall in love with every day.

Up until a few years ago, I said said my greatest fear was losing Danny. I don’t even picture that anymore. We dance in the living room, in the kitchen, wherever we feel like it, in the house we are happy to call our home. Those hugs from day one meant so much and now I get them every day. You might have read in earlier posts from December and January that Danny proposed – I am going to be his wife! I’m laughing as I type tis post because we always said if we were alone at 40, we would come back to each other. Turns out, we were never going to wait that long. Of course, there’s more love in the air because we are going to be parents. 4th July this year marks 5 weeks until our first baby’s due date. He clearly knows I am talking about him because he is wriggling around inside me right now.

The reason for sharing this post is to show that trusting your feelings and letting go of “what ifs” can make a whole lot of difference in life. Danny and I can look back and see everything we have built together even through the many things that have hit us. Whether it be difficult days or exciting days, he will always be the one I turn to. There’s no one than knows me better than Danny. The most romantic, kind-hearted, handsome man I am lucky to call mine.

Here’s to the next chapter and falling in love all over again when we meet our baby boy and get the wedding planning started.

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Things I’ll miss about pregnancy

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Ever since the third trimester began, I started to realise the whole pregnancy journey goes so fast, even the parts you thought were dragging. Almost 7 weeks to go now until my due date. Quite a few friends and family members think he will here sooner. We can’t wait!

Over the last couple of weeks, I’ve been thinking about all of the things I’ll miss about pregnancy. The days have suddenly arrived where my ankles disappear, I might throw up, or I just want to go to sleep. These things are more than worth it when I know I’m bringing a new little life into the world, even more exciting that it’s our first.

Watching my bump grow…

…soon be a baby to hold in my arms. I can’t wait to look into those eyes of his for the first time. I have a photo on my phone capturing the first time I thought I had a ‘bump’ like appearance. Wow, wow, wow! The difference now is just incredible. There’s an actual baby boy inside me and it shows.

Feeling bump move…

The bump that will soon be a little baby boy wriggling around in the real world, in our home. I remember the first time I felt the tiniest of flutters, I got all giddy and excited. Then when the real kicks, movements, and tumbles arrived it’s been what feels like the most thrilling rollercoaster – literally.

Having an excuse to eat whatever whenever

Maybe that’s a little lie because let’s be honest, I’ll still eat all of the goodies I want to. That aside, I doubt I’ll be eating dry crackers at any hour of the day to help but sickness at bay. Twice now I have bought a cheesecake knowing I am the only person in the house who will eat it… what a chunk.

There’s much more to come…

Danny and I have such a special bond with baby bump already. Ever since he has been snuggled up inside me we have listened to music, danced together, had little conversations with him, rubbed my stomach when he moves etc. We can only image the unconditional love we will have from the minute he is born. No doubt I’ll be teary eyed with the biggest smile on my face for a long while. I understand there will be sleepless nights, challenging days, and maybe times where I don’t know how to keep it together… but it will be our kind of perfect because our first baby is going to light up our lives like nothing or no one ever has before.

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Spending Time with Bump

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You might think ‘spending time with bump’ sounds a little odd because he is being carried by me each day. That’s true but I’ve been thinking about how much time I actually dedicate to him even though he’s not on the outside world yet…

Being pregnant is one of the most incredible experiences I have had so far in my life. A little human is growing inside me every day. I feel him kick, wriggle, and move around.

From the moment I found out I was pregnant those ‘mum instincts’ kicked in. And it’s not until recently that I needed to be reminded of them. That’s where my health comes into play. Stress has been a big eye opener in the last few days on how it affects not only me but baby too.

Looking after bump starts with me

In order to look after baby bump, I need to look after myself. I’ve been told several times to take it easy – stop running wild getting those washes done, hoovering up early in the morning, thinking everything has to be done there and then. And there’s a lot going on with day-to-day life too.

Today, I stopped to think, what’s the most important thing in my life right now? And the answer is plural, baby and Danny. A whole new little life and the love of my life to call my own. They give me more meaning each day. I’ve learnt a whole new kind of love and what it feels like to protect and nurture something as well as someone. Our baby boy has brought so much light into our lives before he has even been born.

So, spending time with bump needs to be a big focus for me right now. I always place my hand over my belly and rub it when I feel him. But sometimes I get upset when he doesn’t do the same in return, moving to let me know he is there. And I’ve realised that’s down to me too. Stress isn’t good for anyone, especially not now in my final trimester and the fact I’ve had chronic hypertension (for the last 4 years), needs to be considered. My blood pressure has been creeping up. I know the pregnancy hormones don’t help but I need to change what I do to improve those readings at times.

Taking a step back

Now, I’m really going to try to take more breaks and put things into perspective, otherwise things will take a toll (or more so than they are doing at the moment). I’ve enjoyed my pregnancy so much and I don’t want that to change. It’s such a special, unreal time in my life and I am cherishing it all – the good days and those that aren’t as easy. I do think there should be as many smiles as possible, giving our little boy a message to be smiling inside too.

I’m going to spend more time with bump even if that means a whole day in bed, just me and him. I’m also going to continue to talk to him more, play a song and connect with him because when things get tough, alongside Danny, he makes everything better.

If you’re experiencing your first, second, third, whatever number of pregnancy, let your baby bump know you’re there and do everything in your power to love and care for them.