About a month after we discovered I was pregnant, there were many questions on our minds, one being “I wonder if we are having a boy or girl?” For us, the most important thing is that our baby is healthy and developing well but it’s exciting to think about whether you are bringing a baby boy or girl into the world.
Before the 20 week scan
Leading up to the 20 week anatomy scan, I just wanted to be sure everything was okay. I have worried about a couple of things along the way but I am only human. I guess those mum feelings kick in right away eh? Each week I learn about how our baby is developing and what’s new. From around the moment their heart starts to beat to having tiny fingers, toes and nails, to growing their vital organs and being able to recognise their gender on a scan.
The day of the 20 week scan
The day had finally arrived! As excited as I felt to see our baby, I’ll admit I was little nervous. “What if the sonographer picks something up? Have I been doing everything I can to make sure they are as healthy as possible?“
Our appointment was early in the morning at 8am so we didn’t have to wait around wondering for part of the day. We entered the room, I lay on the bed and the sonographer put some gel on my stomach to start the ultrasound. She gave us a quick glimpse of baby, said she will do all of the checks then come back to show us baby again at the end in more detail.
I was asked to lie on my left side because baby was in a funny position and then asked to lie on my right side. The silence killed me wondering what was going on. A couple of tears strolled down my eyes. Moments later the sonographer turned the screen to us and there were no concerns.
I smiled and heart began to relax. Oh my, their little hands, arms, legs, heart beating strong, even their eye sockets! I fell in love all over again. Danny squeezed my hand then he started to tear up. Everything’s okay. In fact, it’s amazing. Our little dream come true is growing well and everything looks healthy. And guess what? We are having a BABY BOY! A big brother to our second child in the future (we hope). He was looking right at us and gave us a wave.
Were any of the gender myths true?
Quite a few people asked me if I had signs or feelings along the way that it’s a boy or girl. The truth is, no. This is my first pregnancy so I have nothing to compare it to. And it turns out all of the baby gender myths weren’t true for me. I have become a chocoholic, haven’t had any real cravings, typical morning sickness in the first trimester etc. One thing I didn’t have before I was pregnant is indigestion and that sure loves to kick in every now and again, especially at the night time.
Boy or girl, we always knew our baby would we loved so much even before they are born. We are imagining so many special moments in the future.
We are having a son who will be a page boy when we get married! I am imagining the cuteness already. There are so many magical moments happening for us and there isn’t anyone else I would want to experience them all with but Danny. We’ve got this!
Here’s to seeing you again, our beautiful baby boy.