No one likes bullies. Its concerning when we see those people in the world who think they can use someone’s weakness to make them seem more powerful. And that’s the key word here, seem. Not everything’s just the way it seems. They’re not really so powerful yet they’re so clever to make people think they don’t harm you.
Why do you think it is okay to treat someone differently?
It is because of their skin colour, hair colour, disability, or simply because they’re not like you? Does it make you feel powerful?
I will never understand why people thrive from bringing others down, trying to make people like themselves, or asking people to things they’re not comfortable with.
You either don’t realise or you’re very clever at the way you’re doing things. Physical bullying, verbal bullying, social bullying, and cyber bullying are all as bad as each other and affect an individual differently from one to another.
If you’re in the gym, why do you think its okay to laugh at someone who weighs more than you. They are trying to work-out just like you, so what are you mocking exactly? We are all different shapes and sizes.
If someone has spots or wears a brace, why do you think it’s okay to give them nicknames? You think it’s really funny don’t you? But what if you were the one who had those things, how would you feel?
Just because you might be more popular than him or her, it doesn’t give you the right to belittle people. Just because you think you’re better than him or her doesn’t mean that you actually are. In fact, you’re a bully that’s what you are.
The Oxford dictionary describes a bully as:
A person who uses strength or influence to harm or intimidate those who are weaker.
To a certain extent I agree. I think people use their strength to intimidate others. But really, they must be the weak ones to have a thought in mind that day to bully someone who’s human just like them.
I’ve been bullied and I definitely came out stronger. I was scared to walk around the corner to by next class because there they would be, approaching with their looks, comments and throwing things at me.
I went online (in the days of MSN) and see messages that had been sent whilst I was offline calling me ‘ugly’.
In my head, I now think “…well guess what, I think your personality is ugly!”
I was the weak one back then. I was too scared to speak up and felt embarrassed to say something back because they would just laugh anyway. I remember when it was a couple of years later and we had our end of year sports day.
There were people cheering me on (the majority of which never knew about what happened to me those couple of years before). It made me realise that people are changing when they become a bully. And they get bored once they see that you aren’t bothered about what they think anymore.
No longer did I want to be that girl who sat in the corner of the classroom worried about what will happen when people are choosing their partners in a group activity or feel embarrassed to give my opinion on a certain topic in front of them.
I would rather be me than be someone who I’m not to fit in with the crowd.
I’d rather have a handful of friends. I’d rather be proud of where I’ve come on my own path than following one in the life of someone else to get into a group or to get someone to like me.
I was the type of girl who wanted to go to school and do my work. That’s all I ever wanted to do. Making friends in the process made it a whole lot easier but achieving my grades were the most important thing for me. People would call me a geek as a joke but I didn’t mind. It’s when comments before more personal that you feel so low about yourself.
There’s so much superiority in the world, where others like to follow and believe they can be a more important person. I’ve worked with so many different types of people – teachers, students, councillors, governors, and I’ve never changed who I am in front of neither of them. They’re all people. I’ve given an equal amount of respect regardless of their status.
The day someone tried pushing me I decided to take a step back.
Just because someone’s older than you, had more experience in life, and have a higher status, does not give them the right to undermine you.
I’ve been a lot stronger now as a woman than I was a child. I’m glad to have experienced what I did as a child as I will never let anyone challenge me again. My confidence and strength is still growing but I am a lot tougher than I used to be.
Surround yourself with people who want to get that essay finished; who listen to your views in the workplace rather than interrupt and disregard everything you say; who want to be around you simply because you’re you.
The greatest thing I’ve learnt through being bullied is that, it’s okay to cry and it’s even more okay to share your experience with others. Change wasn’t going to happen until I told someone what I was going through and having their reassurance that I can get through it and stand tall.
A 3-year-old can experience bullying and so can a 53-year-old. Let your strength shine and show them that they’re not worth it.