If you’re a regular reader on my blog, you know that I have a constant mind of a worrier, I struggle to see myself through the eyes of people who love me the most, and I always have something circling in my brain.
Since becoming a mum, these thoughts and feelings have been challenged. There are (still) a surge of hormones going through my body as expected. I have become better in some ways and feel like I have weakened in other areas. That’s what I am going to talk about in this post.
Becoming a braver woman?
In ways, yes, I am stronger and braver since becoming a mum. Those instincts to protect your child wherever possible and speaking up hit me from day one, even when our baby boy was in my tummy growing. In other ways, I probably haven’t grown in ways I wish I could. Maybe I had too many expectations that my pattern of negative or worrying thoughts would lessen a lot or maybe even come to an end. I know now that’s way out of reach but I am still learning and growing where I can. There are things I do now which I was terrified of e.g. 1) going for walks every day with baby without wondering about people’s judgement, 2) meeting up with other mums for baby activities, and 3) having the confidence to speak out loud wherever it concerns my health or my baby’s.
I would be lying if I said I have hit all 3 things above perfectly. I am still working on them all in some way or another but I will get there.
Image isn’t everything
Another one that I am still learning to remember. I am very critical about my appearance, whether it be my hair, skin, weight, anything. Some days I might ‘like’ myself a little more than others but I don’t feel like the woman I used to. Sometimes I feel a bit lost then I try to remind myself that how I look isn’t anything to worry about. I need to be kinder to myself. I wouldn’t say the things I say to myself to anyone else so why should I be any different? I might not get in those same size skinny jeans at the moment or ever but it’s okay. I need to stop beating myself up and work on the things that matter.
Danny and Freddy love me for who I am so that’s what I think about whenever I start to feel down about my appearance. It’s so easy to criticise yourself. I want to set an example to our son that he should love who he is so I am doing my hardest to follow that too.
A different perspective
Becoming a mum hasn’t only changed how I feel about my body but it has changed my perception on a range of things. It can relate to things like work, social life, day-to-day chores around the house etc. And prioritising what needs to be done the most. Some days I might not be able to whiz round the house as quick as I used to but it’s okay because being a mum to Freddy is making sure he’s fed, clean and happy with lots of love around him.
I can see what’s really important and what matters to me the most – our little family. Our son comes first and the 3 of us are a family unit who share smiles but let’s not forget about the tears.
Becoming a mum has given my life a whole new meaning and I am so grateful that I have our beautiful baby boy. I fall in love with every little thing he does – learning something new every day, those cute noises, giggles, all of him.
I’m learning that it’s okay to go at my own pace with whatever comes my way.
What has becoming a mum taught you?
Photo source: Alexas_Fotos on pixabay.com